meeting husbands female friend!

seven-day-weekend

No way would I be happy if my husband shared a bed with aniother woman, I don't care how drunk he was. He can always get a taxi home!

If he was that drunk I hope I would be there with him!

And actually, I would be disappointed if he was that drunk!

(edited to add) ..and I may as well be honest, I would not like a 'blokey' woman hanging around and sending him innapropriate text messages.

Blink_2

Rachie_B wrote: »

If you had read all the pages of this thread you will see that its not about "keeping tabs" or "telling your OH what they can / cant do "

its about having mutual respect for each other and not doing something that knowingly hurts / upsets your partner

You would also read that every relationship is different, and many said that whilst opposite sex friends is fine in a marriage flirting etc is NOT !

Others on the other hand said flirting / sharing a bed with an opposite sex friend etc IS fine even within a marriage

It's not about who is right or wrong but whats acceptable to YOU and your situation / circumstances / relationship

Kerry let us know if / when you meet hubbys friend

I have read a lot of the thread and without going back and reading it all and picking out quotes, a number of people said they wouldn't be happy with their partner to have friends of the opposite sex - something that, in my opinion, is verging on the ridiculous.

I agree that everyone is different and have differnet boundaries in their relationship but was just giving my opinion

Rachie_B

Blink wrote: »

I have read a lot of the thread and without going back and reading it all and picking out quotes, a number of people said they wouldn't be happy with their partner to have friends of the opposite sex - something that, in my opinion, is verging on the ridiculous.

I agree that everyone is different and have differnet boundaries in their relationship but was just giving my opinion

Those who *dont* have opposite sex friends ( or their partners and dont want to / need to ) may think its "ridiculous" that some people *do* have opposite sex friends that they flirt with and go out for dinner with etc .......

I am not dissing your opinion BTW lol just as im not with anyones on this thread although yes some of the comments have made me go :eek: :rotfl:

but we all know whats right for our *own* relationship and accept that it may not be everyones cuppa tea ,but if it works for us ( both parties) then fine n dandy :beer:

this thread has opened my eyes a bit though and i sooooo want to meet vik now <very intrigued icon> :rotfl:

black-saturn

Blink wrote: »

You can't let past relationships effect current ones. If you were cheated on in the past, that was an issue with the relationship and with that particular person - not everyone is the same.

I never let past relationships effect the current ones. But the OP has said that her husband is sending flirty texts to another woman which IMO is totally wrong. Does he also send them to his wife? In this case I have drawn on my past experience to give advice about a current one. My boyfriend has female friends at work which is OK but I would soon have something to say about it if I found out they were sending flirty texts to each other.

vik6525

Rachie_B wrote: »

Those who *dont* have opposite sex friends ( or their partners and dont want to / need to ) may think its "ridiculous" that some people *do* have opposite sex friends that they flirt with and go out for dinner with etc .......

I am not dissing your opinion BTW lol just as im not with anyones on this thread although yes some of the comments have made me go :eek: :rotfl:

but we all know whats right for our *own* relationship and accept that it may not be everyones cuppa tea ,but if it works for us ( both parties) then fine n dandy :beer:

this thread has opened my eyes a bit though and i sooooo want to meet vik now <very intrigued icon> :rotfl:

Arf! Cheeky begger! Id LOVE to know what everyone secretly thinks of me now!!
Rather strangely, reading it back, i do understand how 'different' perhaps my lifestyle, and my circle of friends may seem, but, as i said, it works for us, and we're all very happy with it indeed... We are not, however, a group of sex crazed maddly bonking animals, which i think it may have come accross as.. We're just, well, sort of childish!!:rotfl: :rotfl:

nickyhutch

You're not abnormal, Vik, lots of people around like you, me and DP included. That's not to say I don't respect how others lead their lives though. Having said that, if we are out, we're out together, so problems are unlikely to arise.

SeldomSensible

Don't worry about it vik - your attitudes seem quite similar to mine which means you must be a cool chick

narnia2000

I tend to go with the majority, there isn't anything wrong with friends of the opposite sex, my best friend was a man....we used to swap lewd e-mails on a regular basis, my partner had no problem with this.....I have to add that my best friend was gay though lol
I think that part of the problem is that this friendship seems fairly new, and you are right to be a little suspicious, you shouldn't feel guilty about cancelling, or anything else for that matter. I concur with others about organising a gathering, personally I would go with a larger bar-b-que to include more of hubbys workmates, their reaction may well tell a story too.
I would invite a few girlfriends for when the conversation inevitably turned to work topics, send the children away for the evening, and be the perfect hostess, a lot easier to observe friendships in this situation than in a close family one.
Try not to go the jealousy or femme fatale route, just show what a nice, thoughtful, kind and caring wife you are.......good luck

Paulinuk

southwestmaid wrote: »

Maybe he wants her to meet you because he's proud of his lovely wife? There are lots of ways of looking at it.

can i come to the bbq?

Paulinuk

can i come to the bbq?