meeting husbands female friend!

Rachie_B

moodykerry wrote: »

Hello all! I can't believe all the treads on this subject, taking me over an hour to read them all!

Well this is what happened.
Before the bbq had started, i was at the sink washing up and I just started to quietly cry , my hubby came up behind me and gave me a hug, then I started to bawl lol, he didn't know what was wrong, so I told him, he was shocked that it had affected me so badly and he was really sorry. He sad he had no interest in her in that way at all, and he had invited her so I could see that she was just a normal mate. In fact she doesn't have many friends and she never has much too do at the weekend, and he felt a bit sorry for her. So he cancelled the bbq, I didn't ask him too. Then I felt really bad, I felt like a right prat, and I felt sorry for her as it got cancelled at the last minute. So I said maybe she could come round some other day. I do wish she had come round now, just so I could see what she was like.
I can't say I am 100% happy on this situation now but I do feel a lot more secure in my marriage. I think I may of over reacted a bit but I can't help how I felt at the time. It will still be very odd when I do meet her, and I will have my eyes peeled. If I see nothing that worries me I will be happy for them to be friends, if I see something I don't like, well I'm not sure.
Anyway, thankyou all for your input, I can't believe the response!
Thanks
Kerry

here you go !

Mandles

It was such a long thread i missed the important page! Thanks for that.
He sounds lovely. How nice to cancel it for you.Maybe he might ease off the texts too for you.Can you pop in work one day whaen some time has passed to give him something or to meet him for lunch? You can then see her and put your mind at rest.
I still think you did the right thing. You sound like you have a good relationship with your hubby. Maybe even tell him you just want to be nosey and see her once so you can put it behind you.

Drunkstar

vik6525 wrote: »

Just curious like (mainly cause ive got a hangover today, so im not gonna argue with anyone!!) but which bits did you find offensive?

Hororay, you get it. 70% of married men cheat. The other 30% have just never had the chance.

All men would cheat if they thought 100% their wife would not find out.

If he likes your company he is interested

Those 3 for example. I am male. I have female friends. My best friend is female. I am not (and never have been) interested in her. I would NEVER cheat on my fiancee. EVER! Its offesnive to say I would just because I am male.

Mics_chick

Just posting this so I can find it later when I've got time to read it :rolleyes:

vik6525

Drunkstar wrote: »

Those 3 for example. I am male. I have female friends. My best friend is female. I am not (and never have been) interested in her. I would NEVER cheat on my fiancee. EVER! Its offesnive to say I would just because I am male.

Oh thats ok then! I thought you were gonna shout at me for being a brazen hussy!

nickyhutch

Mandles wrote: »

Im married and if i really find someone very attractive / stunningly handsome i wouldn't talk to them at all(my friend is highly amused at this) but its true.

Me too. I know how bad I can be so keep temptation out of harm's way.

Drunkstar

vik6525 wrote: »

Oh thats ok then! I thought you were gonna shout at me for being a brazen hussy!

Oh hell no! Nothing wrong with being close to friends, as long as everyone involved is OK with the situation.

Milky_Mocha

Frugal_Fox wrote: »

Husband is still faithful, he still sends and receives messages from female collegues. x

How do you know?

Frugal_Fox wrote: »

Remain calm and not acquasatory (sp?).

accusatory

crazy_guy

Cor what a long thread but a very interesting one just to see what people see as acceptable in a relationship and whats not!!

Slightly insulting that some of you feel that us men are just wanting to get our leg over, many of my friends are female but it doesnt mean i want to shag them!! - I enjoy their company as they are nice people and generally you can have a deeper conversation with a girl than you do with blokes and i enjoy that.

We do have the occasional banter via text and face-to-face but is jokey and is perfectly okay. SoozieSoo mentioned she'd question her mans sexuality if he slept in the same bed as a bloke.... i have done so but it was mainly due to us being drunk and sleeping over at a friends house and we werent going to waste a double bed!! I have also slept on the floor next to a female friend and there was nowt with that either

I also write to one of my friends from school regulary and the gf has no problem with this either, on my law course its like 60/40 ratio in favour of girls and most of my friends on the course are girls, and again i dont want to shag them either. Even if that leggy blonde came round the corner and offered it to me on a plate i would still refuse because the relationship with my gf is worth more than a bit of randyiness.

Some of you are very insecure and feel sorry that you do not have the confidence in your OH.

Josie64

just spent over an hour reading this interesting post.....
someone said why hasn't this woman got any friends?
and someone else was a single person who was harrassed by the wife....what happened there?