meeting husbands female friend!

sleepymy

vik6525 wrote: »

I have absolute respect for the institution of marriage..

I think that's clear from your posts. If people choose to make out otherwise to support their opinion that's a reflection on their opinion and not you. Seriously my hubbies female friend has a similar outlook as you. i keep saying they get on so well cos she's a bit of a boy and he's a bit of a girl

daphne_descends

vik6525 wrote: »

Thats werent me... read em back, it wasnt me wo said that, it was someone else...

This thread is 14 pages long. I'll take your word for it and stand corrected

MATH

vik6525 wrote: »

Ye gads! I hope that wasnt directed at me! I love my male friends partners as much as i love my mates! In fact, theyre all my mates now! For my friends to find love is womderful to me, and im as happy for them as i am when my female friends got married, had babies etc... For my male mates to meet women so amazing that they want to marry them is inspirational, and the women who love my mates are fantastic cause theyve improved their lives... (did that make any sense?!!)

That sounds great and I can imagine when you find someone you wish to settle down with you could all be friends together. Mrs MATH and I have many couples as friends who started out as single friends of one or the other before we were married.

Because I am interested/nosey:D if this sunny situation should change, as in life they often do and storm clouds gather, maybe one of your friends marriages hits a rocky spot and it become apparent that your friendship with the guy has caused a long standing hither to unspoken niggle in the marriage and is part of the problem, how would you feel and what would you do?

murphy61

Whoa! This thread is getting a bit personal...... and not helpful to the OP

vik6525

Suzey wrote: »

But at the same time, you think that your mates should put their foot down with these amazing women if they have a problem with your friendship. Do the wives feel the same way about you as you do about them - or don't you care?

Suze

It wasnt me who said the whole thing about 'putting your foot down'... It was someone else... Seriously, read it back. I never once have said what Id do if my male friends partners/wives didnt like me...

vik6525

MATH wrote: »

That sounds great and I can imagine when you find someone you wish to settle down with you could all be friends together. Mrs MATH and I have many couples as friends who started out as single friends of one or the other before we were married.

Because I am interested/nosey:D if this sunny situation should change, as in life they often do and storm clouds gather, maybe one of your friends marriages hits a rocky spot and it become apparent that your friendship with the guy has caused a long standing hither to unspoken niggle in the marriage and is part of the problem, how would you feel and what would you do?

Naturally I would be upset, but I would also expect my friend to side with his wife/partner...

tiff

Maybe someone could start this up in the discussion forum and leave this thread for the OP to discuss her situation, if she chooses to come back.

Labman_2

Rachie_B wrote: »

quite what ?

quite quiet!

mom23

I am divorced,(not through affairs!) and have been living with partner for 11 yrs.
I would be mortified if i thought my OH was getting texts from a female "friend" and inviting her to OUR home!!
And how do you explain it to the kids!!!
I can understand having friends of the opposite sex. i can understand going for meals with work colleagues(sp) But i can't understand inviting one specific female friend to a family BBQ when it only consists of family!!!
I do feel that when OP comes back after reading all these post's she will feel that he has (rightly or wrongly) done somthing wrong! however i feel that if her OH is so insensitive to ignore her feelings over the text's and still feel it is ok to invite friend to BBQ than she has a problem.
I really hope you are ok kerry:grouphug:
I would really like to smack him on the nose:D

vik6525

Maybe, just maybe, (bringing it back to the op!) the ops usband invited her round to show that the flirty texts didnt mean anything? I do agree that the whole family bbq thing is a bit weird, but, maybe he was doing it to show her she had nothing to worry about. I honestly hope that Kerry hasnt been back because her and her new mate are out having a girly afternoon, having a glass of wine somewhere and a laugh.
Howver, I do think the ops husband was hugely insensitive, as he went ahead and did something he knew his wife wasnt happy about. And personally, I think THAT is the issue. That he didnt care how upset he was making his wife. He should be the person who protects her from hurt, not causes it...