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vik6525 and burnoutbabe out of interest can I ask whether you 'fancy' (or have in the past) your male friends.
If the answer is NO, then I believe this is why you have been able to remain friends. I think if a woman fancies a man and they spend time together, it very often leads to something more.
I am not suggesting men have no say in the matter, but I have yet to find a man who, as one said to me, 'when offered s*x on a plate' from someone they like, would refuse.
Ah, men are evil, will sleep with anyone so it is up to us women to not be friends with them, so as to not put any temptation in their way
I think i did fancy my male mate in the past, i met him several years ago at a social outting and thought he seemed my sort of person (whether that is fancying i don't know). And i wouldn't be mates anyway with someone i didn't click with, be it male or female. But we became mates just before he got wed, sure i'll meet his wife one day (but really not fussed if i meet her or not), and i was invited on his stag do.
its a pretty sad world if you can't be friends with the opposite sex. I flirt with everyone anyway, it means nothing. I rarely flit or make suggestive suggestions to those i really do fancy.
And soozie, i don't need to protect myself from an angry wife, if she has issues its with her husband or her level of trust, not me.0 -
If you knew me, then you'd know that im absolutly no threat, and have never ever been percieved as such!
I think this is exactly it. A woman's intuition is a very clever thing. It sounds like no woman has ever thought you were a threat to her marriage or relationship because of how you behave.
Other women, however, behave in a very different way and try to "pretend" it's friendship. That's the difference!0 -
burnoutbabe wrote: »Ah, men are evil, will sleep with anyone so it is up to us women to not be friends with them, so as to not put any temptation in their way
I think i did fancy my male mate in the past, i met him several years ago at a social outting and thought he seemed my sort of person (whether that is fancying i don't know). And i wouldn't be mates anyway with someone i didn't click with, be it male or female. But we became mates just before he got wed, sure i'll meet his wife one day (but really not fussed if i meet her or not), and i was invited on his stag do.
its a pretty sad world if you can't be friends with the opposite sex. I flirt with everyone anyway, it means nothing. I rarely flit or make suggestive suggestions to those i really do fancy.
And soozie, i don't need to protect myself from an angry wife, if she has issues its with her husband or her level of trust, not me.
I think me and you would be REALLY good mates if we ever met!:beer:You lied to me Edward. There IS a Swansea. And other places.....
*I have done reading too*
*I have done geography as well*0 -
OH MY GOD - what's happened? Come on - we need to know, it's like someone ringing the doorbell 2 minutes before the end of Eastenders and missing the cliffhanger.
Come on Kerry - what happened?!?!?!?!Hope for the best, plan for the worst.0 -
I think this is exactly it. A woman's intuition is a very clever thing. It sounds like no woman has ever thought you were a threat to her marriage or relationship because of how you behave.
Other women, however, behave in a very different way and try to "pretend" it's friendship. That's the difference!
I gotta agree with burnout babe on this.... When I actually DO fancy someone, theres no way on earth I can flirt with them!!! I get tounge tied and bashful!You lied to me Edward. There IS a Swansea. And other places.....
*I have done reading too*
*I have done geography as well*0 -
Beatrix_Kiddo wrote: »OH MY GOD - what's happened? Come on - we need to know, it's like someone ringing the doorbell 2 minutes before the end of Eastenders and missing the cliffhanger.
Come on Kerry - what happened?!?!?!?!
Come on, this is someone's REAL life, not Eastenders! :mad:“A budget is telling your money where to go instead of wondering where it went.” - Dave Ramsey0 -
burnoutbabe wrote: »Ah, men are evil, will sleep with anyone so it is up to us women to not be friends with them, so as to not put any temptation in their way
I don’t think men are evil, but they are ruled pretty much by what is in their trousers. Take my husband for example. He has all the time in the world for my female friends who I assume he fancies. The ones that he doesn’t barely get a grunt out of him. I find the same with my friend’s husbands. You can tell the ones that fancy me as they are ever so nice. The ones that don’t barley acknowledge me.
I have had lots of male friends when I was younger. Every single one of them has made a pass at me (including my husband!) one or two even after I got with my husband. Turns out none of them were really my friend after all. I am certainly no looker, so it isn't because I am some kind of hot babe.0 -
burnoutbabe wrote: »so as a single woman it appears that once a mate gets married, the whole tone of your friendship must change. sad really.
one of my best mates i met about a year ago, we started emailing out of the blue about something on a website, clicked and now email a couple of times a day. In this time he got wed. good for him. we've met for beers a few times, with other mates of his. we text sometimes at weekends when he doesn't have email access.
the fact he is married and male makes it no real difference to the female mates i email and text every day. if he was TOLD to stop contacting me, that would be very sad really.
I really doubt any woman planning to have an afffair or already having an affair with a guy would attend a BBQ, i know i'd never dream of doing that, would just seem either VERY SICK, or bound to lead to being caught out.
She may well be just like many single women whose mates are all now married/have kids and an invite to a BBQ at the weekend is actually a nice thing to look forward to if no other plans.
I know a woman who attended a barbecue on her own(i.e. not in a group) when she was having an affair with the husband. She also used to babysit his kids while the affair was ongoing. I know another one who came to the door, with a beaming smile on her face, to ask HIS WIFE, who she'd never met before, if the guy was in! (She got told to f*(< off in no uncertain terms)!
Some people are just bare faced.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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seven-day-weekend wrote: »I know a woman who attended a barbecue on her own(i.e. not in a group) when she was having an affair with the husband. She also used to babysit his kids while the affair was ongoing. I know another one who came to the door, with a beaming smile on her face, to ask HIS WIFE, who she'd never met before, if the guy was in! (She got told to f*(< off in no uncertain terms)!
Some people are just bare faced.
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A female friend of mine's partner was having an affair ,with her "friend" !
this friend would cut the kids hair,pick them up from school etc etc ! all the while sh@gging the hubby !
It went on for months !0 -
burnoutbabe wrote: »Ah, men are evil, will sleep with anyone so it is up to us women to not be friends with them, so as to not put any temptation in their way
I think i did fancy my male mate in the past, i met him several years ago at a social outting and thought he seemed my sort of person (whether that is fancying i don't know). And i wouldn't be mates anyway with someone i didn't click with, be it male or female. But we became mates just before he got wed, sure i'll meet his wife one day (but really not fussed if i meet her or not), and i was invited on his stag do.
its a pretty sad world if you can't be friends with the opposite sex. I flirt with everyone anyway, it means nothing. I rarely flit or make suggestive suggestions to those i really do fancy.
And soozie, i don't need to protect myself from an angry wife, if she has issues its with her husband or her level of trust, not me.
Its not that I think you can't be friends with the opposite sex - I have had a great laugh with men at work, and also with friends partners, etc.
Its just I think men are usually only friendly with ladies they find attractive.
I rarely flit or make suggestive suggestions to those i really do fancy That's part of it - women flirt with male 'friends' because they feel safe (they are not really interested), whereas men flirt with women they find attractive - usually resulting in men making an unwelcome pass. That's my experience anyway.
If a man I was flirting with invited me to a family bbq I might go because I found him good company and would know I didn't fancy him, but I would suspect he fancied me. lol0
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