grandparents finding grandchildren difficult

barbiedoll

To return to OP point: Your mum probably does remember dealing with you as a stroppy two-year-old and she probably thinks that smacking was a perfectly valid way to deal with you, at the time!

There is a different attitude to smacking now (thankfully) and a lot of people who did smack their children, and indeed, those who were smacked, tend to say stuff like "it didn't do me/my kids any harm" etc etc. But most parents now know that ignoring a tantrum is probably the best way to deal with it, same as we know that smacking a screaming toddler is not going to improve the situation. My friend's parents were very critical of her parenting skills when her children were young. Her son was a real screamer and had some spectacular tantrums. After hearing criticism from her dad just once too often, she turned on him and questioned how he was suddenly such an authority on parenting, especially as 3 out of his four children had never managed to sustain a sucessful relationship, 2 of his children didn't want anything to do with him and all four of them remembered the regular beatings he dished out. Incidently, her son is now a lovely, well-behaved 13 year old!

As for the colouring-in.....I think your mum probably didn't give you colouring books until you were older. There aren't many two year olds who can do anything other than scribble. At least she wasn't doing it on Granny's wall! :eek:

Torry_Quine

broace wrote: »

Well previous generations thought nothing of physically abusing their Children and smoking with a baby sat next to them, it's called progression.

Giving up your seat for an Adult is a dated notion, steeped in entitlement solely on age basis. A child needs more care on a bus, just as a pregnant woman, the disabled or elderly do so or a perfectly healthy Adult to feel more entitled to a seat than a Child is just wrong.

Comparing child abuse with not letting a child have priority to a seat shows just the way your mind works.

Many people still smoke around children though and yes I agree its wrong.

Torry_Quine

broace wrote: »

I am not comparing it just showing how the treatment of parents/adults to Children has evolved through progression.

Not always for the better though. Why do you keep using a capital letter for children?

daisiemaetulip

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zaksmum

daisiemaetulip wrote: »

sorry if im being dumb but ive searched everywhere and cant see how to start a new thread? can someone point me to the right place to do so please,,
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Just click on NEW THREAD at the top left hand side of each board.

zaksmum

So what would the vast majority of us think if we saw, say, a 12 year old boy stand up on the bus and offer his seat to an adult?

Would we think "what an idiot, giving up his seat like that", or would it be "what a lovely lad, a credit to his parents"?

I know what my feelings would be!

Torry_Quine

zaksmum wrote: »

So what would the vast majority of us think if we saw, say, a 12 year old boy stand up on the bus and offer his seat to an adult?

Would we think "what an idiot, giving up his seat like that", or would it be "what a lovely lad, a credit to his parents"?

I know what my feelings would be!

Me too.

Dunroamin

broace wrote: »

What in the 1900's?

Children should always have priority of a seat over a healthy Adult. Some of you seem to have a very entitled and superior mentality which isn't at all endearing.

So, big family gathering with a limited number of chairs, who sits on the chairs and who has the cushions on the floor?

seven-day-weekend

Dunroamin wrote: »

So, big family gathering with a limited number of chairs, who sits on the chairs and who has the cushions on the floor?

The parents would stand and they would probably eat only 'kiddie' food, because that's what little Johnnie wants.

bestpud

Dunroamin wrote: »

So, big family gathering with a limited number of chairs, who sits on the chairs and who has the cushions on the floor?

Adults would eventually get the seats because they'd spend more time on them I guess.

I'm 41 and would happily sit on a cushion.

In my family at least, those unable to sit on the floor would get a chair and the rest would take their chances. If we got a chair and wanted to keep it then we'd be sure not to get up because it would be gone by the time we returned.

Conversations tend to dictate where people sit when we have get togethers.

My dad would get a chair because there is no way he could sit gonna cushion on the floor.