grandparents finding grandchildren difficult

zaksmum

I would've told her the seat was for HER, not the boy!

plumpmouse

zaksmum wrote: »

I would've told her the seat was for HER, not the boy!

See I would find that really rude. You can't offer your seat with conditions attached!

The seat was offered to the woman and she obviously felt it was more important for her 4 year old to be seated. You have no idea if the child has issues or problems of any kind. This is a 4 year old remember not a 12 year. At 4 a busy tube/bus must seem daunting when stood around people who probably look enormous to you and thats before you take into account any jerking about while moving.

I would have thanked you for the seat (as I think the woman did to the poster) but if you had followed it up with that I would have told you it was none of your business.

It really is quite rude to think you have the right to dictate how the woman should use the seat!

thorsoak

I was just too dumbfounded to say anything!!!

peachyprice

Nicki wrote: »

I would expect my 12 year old son definitely to get up and offer his seat on the bus or tube to an adult. Not so when he was a good deal younger though, and I certainly don't expect my three year old to do so.

To any adult? Would you expect him to give up his seat for an 18 year or someone clearly in their 20's or 30's?

I wouldn't expect my 11yo to give up her seat to an adult other than a senior, disabled, pregnant lady or someone struggling with small children or heavy shopping. I certainly wouldn't expect her to give up her seat and hang on for dear life for someone far stronger and more able to stand than her just because they happen to be an adult.

Shepherd1

zaksmum wrote: »

I would've told her the seat was for HER, not the boy!

And you think you have good manners??

peachyprice

thorsoak wrote: »

At Victoria, on the still crowded train, a very pregnant lady with a boy of about 4 or 5 got on the train. Ipod player was still occupied with her music - so I got up and offered her my seat. She thanked me ....and then sat the boy down :eek:

It was probably more comfortable and easier for her to stand and let the boy sit down than either try to sit him on her lap with her bump in the way or sit herself while trying to hold onto the boy to stop him falling when the train stopped/started.

seven-day-weekend

Person_one wrote: »

That's what emergency chairs are for!

When I'm with toddlers I tend to spend most of the time on the floor voluntarily. Shockingly, some people actually like the children they know. Some of us also like having an excuse to play with duplo and playdoh...

I like some of them. There is one particular little girl who is the daughter of some young friends of ours and I am very fond of her. Also there is another one slightly older, with special needs, who is an interesting and interested child, who I am fond of. And a little boy, a toddler with special needs, who I like.

But I don't like naughty undisciplined children.

thatgirlsam

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I agree and would not be happy if I were standing when a child remained seated. :mad:

:rotfl::rotfl:

Wow. Are you an OAP? Or just really, really important?

Either of my children (and I) would give up our seat in a flash for an elderly or disabled person. Not for a perfectly able bodied adult capable of standing.

Personally I would be horrified if someone elses child got up and stood to let me sit!! I have no more right or importance than them. They are a person too.

Nicki

peachyprice wrote: »

To any adult? Would you expect him to give up his seat for an 18 year or someone clearly in their 20's or 30's?

I wouldn't expect my 11yo to give up her seat to an adult other than a senior, disabled, pregnant lady or someone struggling with small children or heavy shopping. I certainly wouldn't expect her to give up her seat and hang on for dear life for someone far stronger and more able to stand than her just because they happen to be an adult.

No, that's true. I wouldn't expect him to give his seat to a young adult. But I would expect him to at least offer it to a middle aged adult, or to anyone who looked like they were struggling.

My sister who has just turned 50 though was offered a seat on the tube by a teenager recently and was extremely upset by it, because she interpreted it as a sign that she was now officially old :rotfl:

thatgirlsam

Nicki wrote: »

No, that's true. I wouldn't expect him to give his seat to a young adult. But I would expect him to at least offer it to a middle aged adult, or to anyone who looked like they were struggling.

My sister who has just turned 50 though was offered a seat on the tube by a teenager recently and was extremely upset by it, because she interpreted it as a sign that she was now officially old :rotfl:

Same thing happened to my ex mil. On the tube she got offered a seat by a guy and she was really, really offended! (and refused the seat) She was 60 then I think.