Finding That Special Person

miss_independent

On_My_Lonesome wrote: »

Ooooooo I want to join your gym Where are you?

Deepest darkest Lancashire :eek:.

VestanPance

On_My_Lonesome wrote: »

There may be hope then for gym, just need there to be some decent bloke join, maybe there will be in the New year fitness rush.

I thought about the running club but need to get myself a bit fitter first, currently the run from the gym to the top of the road (its up a big hill) would kill me, I can manage Ok for a few Kms on flat but hills knock me for six, will keep working at it and join the beginners group when I can get to the top of the hill without need oxygen and an ambulance on standby!

Hills are always evil, but the more you do them the more you get used to the evilness.

You should give a running club a go. Most clubs these days cater for all abilities from beginners to the high end amateur racers. The ones up here all tend to be very social too.

On_My_Lonesome

miss_independent wrote: »

Deepest darkest Lancashire :eek:.

Potentially not that far from me then.

Am seriously considering having a look at a few different gyms next week and seeing what the talent oooops sorry equipment is like. :rotfl:

miss_independent

former_student wrote: »

It's amazing Ms. Independent and myself won't approach potential partners and we wonder why we're single.

Yeahhhhhh... BUT......I DO meet people but men just don't approach me, they genuinely don't seem to be interested in me. It's kind of different for women.....traditionally it IS the men that have asked women out in ages past. Part of me wonders if I'm being naturally selected out.....

miss_independent

On_My_Lonesome wrote: »

Potentially not that far from me then.

Am seriously considering having a look at a few different gyms next week and seeing what the talent oooops sorry equipment is like. :rotfl:

Council run gyms can be quite good because clubs and teams are often organised from there and it's often peoples first port of call.

Just don't join a women only gym :rotfl:.

On_My_Lonesome

VestanPance wrote: »

Hills are always evil, but the more you do them the more you get used to the evilness.

You should give a running club a go. Most clubs these days cater for all abilities from beginners to the high end amateur racers. The ones up here all tend to be very social too.

You may have convinced me to have a go. After all I can only enbarass myself and if its too bad I will just have to swap gyms.

miss_independent wrote: »

Council run gyms can be quite good because clubs and teams are often organised from there and it's often peoples first port of call.

Just don't join a women only gym :rotfl:.

Im with the council gyms at the moment will have to pay more attention to the groups timings and see when would be a good time to be there. God I'm making this sound like my lifes work aren't I?

Apologies to OP don't mean to take over thread.

former_student

miss_independent wrote: »

Yeahhhhhh... BUT......I DO meet people but men just don't approach me, they genuinely don't seem to be interested in me. It's kind of different for women.....traditionally it IS the men that have asked women out in ages past. Part of me wonders if I'm being naturally selected out.....

If I think you're not interested I'll act less interested, the key word is act.

JodyBPM

Flirting.

Without it, you can meet all the men in the world, but you'll be lucky to progress through to a relationship.

It's a skill that some women have, and some don't and I would say the most accurate indicator of whether someone is good at getting into relationships (whether they subsequently become successful long term relationships is a whole different matter).

miss_independent

former_student wrote: »

If I think you're not interested I'll act less interested, the key word is act.

I think it's just me......if I'm interested I'm interested...I don't play games. I keep the conversation going, am sweet, flirt a little, smile a lot and then .......nothing. Or I get "Is your friend single?". But honestly, men often see me and run a mile, they can be almost hostile towards me. I do think it's just something about me and, at any rate, it's nothing that can be solved on an Internet forum.

Person_one

miss_independent wrote: »

traditionally it IS the men that have asked women out in ages past. Part of me wonders if I'm being naturally selected out.....

Its 2012, time to drop the Downton Abbey attitude!

Its a bit of a myth that men always do the 'courting' anyway. My mum nabbed my dad before he knew what was going on back in the early eighties, my grandma says she decided she was marrying my granddad within half an hour of meeting him in the fifties she just eased him into the idea slowly!

Out of my coupled up friends, I'd say it was pretty even between whether the man or the woman initiated things. One female friend practically bulldozed her way into a guy's life but they're now married with a kid and another on the way and he seems happy enough! With my last ex, I made the first contact on an online dating site, he never would have because his subscription had run out and he wasn't checking regularly!

We don't rely on 'fate' or other people to do anything else for us these days. We plan our own careers, buy our own homes, do our own DIY and manage our own finances, why take a back seat and wait for our partners to somehow magically appear while we're pretending to 'least expect it'?