It is only once a week now...

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

peachyprice wrote: »

Ummm....from your previous posts I can just imagine your response if it were the wife saying she was out on the house from 7am to 7pm 5 days a week but her husband was pressuring her for sex 2-3 times a week and wasn't happy with the once she actually had the energy for.

Imagine all you like.


I had no complaints and neither did he, way back in the days before internet shopping.

I certainly wouldn't have been telling him I could just about squeeze in a four minute fumble between 8 and 8.04 on a Saturday morning, for example, as he would have needs as much as I did. There are more tactful ways to go about it than that, and they certainly wouldn't have gone the way of telling him to bog off and sort himself out. Because even then, I knew, as did he, it was about more than those couple of seconds of release.

peachyprice

belgiumwaffle wrote: »

It is true also that I feel a bit uhm used shall we say on a saturday morning, as if it is yes, just another chore ticked off. It is missing the emotional connection I agree.

But don't you think it's becoming a bit of a chore because he feels you're expecting it? It's a bit of a catch 22 really.

ska_lover

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Yes, yes I did.


And I had a boyfriend who worked equally long hours in a physical job.

It is interesting that you use the past tense...

ska_lover

balletshoes wrote: »

thats probably true if thats what you're used to - but the OP isn't, and neither is her partner. Its not something I'd relish, and I'd be knackered doing that week in week out.

Thank you. I can vouch for this, as I work 12 hour days, and so does my OH - -sometimes on opposite shifts. We don't plan to work like this for ever (the dreaded saving for a deposit!!).

It just really gets on my goat when someone belittles the daily grind and struggle that people who work such long hours go through..like it is a breeze.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

ska_lover wrote: »

It is interesting that you use the past tense...

Yup. I met someone else. And then later, I met someone else.


Nowdays, with my current boyfriend, it isn't as frequent. Rheumatoid arthritis and medication has put paid to that. However, even so, there is no reason for complaints from either side.

0^0

ska_lover wrote: »

It is interesting that you use the past tense...

Haha she probably wore them out, or found that after the sex they had nothing in common.:D:rotfl:

ska_lover

O000000000o miaow. There's no need to be catty

zaksmum

0^0 wrote: »

Are you like me then, you think about it more than you get it lol.:D

Afraid so...!:o

moneypuddle

I think 12 hour days are becoming more normal now. It's what my OH does (I'm talking from leaving home to coming home, not an actual 12 hour shift). At least you actually have set weekends together - its even harder when you don't!

0^0

ska_lover wrote: »

O000000000o miaow. There's no need to be catty

Haha.........:D