Finally meet someone I like... and she's moving away! Advice please!

robpw2

from what you have said, it seems she is giving you all the signs to say she likes you

i would say go for it ,
i moved to be with my matty after a week of meeting him and numerous hours talking on skype , ok it was only kent to manchester but 7 years later we are still together and he still makes me so happy

VestanPance

Two things.

1. You're need of her to point out her interest even more than she currently does screams of someone with very little self confidence. That's a terrible trait for any guy to have when dating. You need to grow a pair.
2. I understand from your posts that you are looking for a relationship, so may see her moving away as this being short term thus pointless. That's an insane way to approach dating. You go in and take it as it comes. You like her, but it's been two dates. Just two. You have no idea what the long term implications are and that is true of any dating scenario at the beginning.

If you both get enjoy each other company then date her until she moves. If you like each other enough by the time she moves you then both make the judgement call on if there is a possibility of anything growing from what you have started even at a long distance.

OptimusNemesis

Last night went well - we had a lot of fun. We went to the local Pizza Hut and chatted over pizza for over an hour, then we went bowling, had a couple of games (I won one, she won one) then played table hockey for a bit (which was a lot of fun) before she gave me a lift back to the railway station, where we chatted for a bit. My train was late and I missed the connecting train back home, so I spent a lot of time hanging around. We texted back and forth - teasing eachother about earlier (we seem to do that a lot actually - it's all just playful stuff though). So I texted and told her that I'd had a lot of fun but the most enjoyable part of the evening for me was being with her.The response I got back was along the lines of "awww thanks - it was a lovely evening."Does that sound like a polite way of saying "thanks but I'm not interested in you like that"? I wasn't expecting a reply confessing her undying love for me... but it does sound a little bit flat. I thought that if she was interested she would have said something along the lines of she feels the same. Or am I being an idiot here? I'm wondering whether I have been seeing what I wanted to see, rather than the reality of it. I don't want to be a pest, if she's not interested like that. Or am I reading it wrong? There were a couple of moments last night where I thought she was interested... but I guess I could have been imagining it.-G

rpc

OptimusNemesis wrote: »

Or am I being an idiot here?

Yes.

Take it at face value. She had a lovely evening with you and appreciated your comment.

Stop looking for problems and enjoy yourself.

loubie_lou

rpc wrote: »

Yes.

Take it at face value. She had a lovely evening with you and appreciated your comment.

Stop looking for problems and enjoy yourself.

+ 1 You beat me to it!

VestanPance

Holy Jebus, it's only your third date together. Things sound like they are going well, you both had a great time. Relax and enjoy.

You know the one thing that will scare her and most other women away. Being needy and insecure, which is what you come across as being in your posts here. Be a man and stop analysing text messages. You should be walking down the street thinking "I'm the man" after a good date.

OptimusNemesis

You're all right - I am being an idiot! lol I guess it's the fact that she's off in just a couple of weeks and we're getting on so well... that and the fact that I've just had the anniversary of my Dad dying as well, so it's put me in a bit of a funny frame of mind.She seems a lot chattier today in texts since I sent her that message! :-)I'm not strutting down the street with "staying alive" in my head just yet but it does make me smile when I think about how much I've enjoyed spending time with her the last 3 dates.Oh - and we have a 4th scheduled for Saturday! :-)- G

Fire_Fox

Stop overthinking and overanalysing everything!!!!!! Get some help with that, perhaps a GP referral for talking therapies.

anastasia666

May I just say I can completely empathise with the over-analysing of everything. I am very much like this, and it is causing me so much extra stress and misery at the moment. As well as not exactly being an attractive quality to the opposite sex!

If this doesn't work out for you, perhaps you and I would make a good couple!!!:rotfl:;)

JustKeepSwimming_2

Just stumbled on this thread - & Optimus I'm so glad you are having some fun dating! I also sympathise with the over analysing :rotfl: as I'm guilty of this too.

IMHO I think she likes you so just try & enjoy it, & I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you both. LDRs can work out, so why don't you see where this goes?

Enjoy Saturday :beer: