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Just found out my son is experimenting with other boys
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My my..arent we all being ever so careful about discussing homosexuality..Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0
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Hi, just came across this post and wondered - is this site not supposed to be about money saving???0
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Troubled_mum wrote: »Obviously I don't like to think of myself as older :eek: but I am in my early 50's. I agree totally and that was one of the things that worried me particularly where we live, it is fairly rough in town and I do worry about when he starts going out to pubs and clubs because of all the drinking and fighting. Throughout the summer we have heard about kids dying on holiday, one leaning over a balcony to throw up. I know as a kid I did really stupid things but I am an adult now and I realise how dangerous it could have been for me. This is what makes me worry so much, the excessive drinking and then putting himself in danger because of it.
I'm just as worried about my son getting beaten up for having long hair and wearing a leather jacket, so I do understand what you mean by this - but things really have changed in recent years and has others have said homophobia is something to be ashamed of nowadays, being gay is not.
Gay and straight people mix a lot more than they used to and it's not a case of straight lifestyle or gay lifestyle - the two mix a lot. If he's gay he can still have straight friends and go to 'straight' clubs, and his straight friends can go to gay clubs with him.
I went to a gay wedding last month and there were lots of families with kids there who were friends of the couple, and probably half of the friendship group were straight. He won't be segregated from the rest of the world if he is gay.
Things really have moved on a lot, in his generation if not in yours
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Your son is trying to prepare you for some news as he mentions it took a boy 3 years to work out he liked other boys. He is your son and is allowed to do what he likes and if you love him you should be happy as long as he is happy.Troubled_mum wrote: »I have just found out that my son is having drunken fumbles (and possibly a bit more) with other boys. He is 18 years old and I would never have thought this of him. It appears that he developed strong feelings for one of his best friends and acted on them at a party when he was quite drunk. Since then he has got off with other lads but it has mainly been kissing and some fondling, although with one lad it was more than that (oral).
I am absolutely devastated, his friend who he did the oral with asked him if he was gay or bi or what. He replied I don't know, possibly bi. It appears that in the last six months he has got off with about 5 lads all when very drunk but equally there has been a lot of heavy petting with girls.
The way I feel at the moment is sick to the stomach, I feel like I did last year when I got a recall on a Friday for a mammogram and had to wait until Monday for the appointment. I don't know why I feel like this, possibly because I am having to keep it to myself, my husband is away and it is not something I can discuss on the phone. I also wonder whether it is just a phase he is going through. He goes to an all boys school and has only in the last couple of years had girls in his life through clubs and college.
If it is a phase is it fair to tell my husband he will be devastated but only because life is already tuff and this would just make it even harder.
I cannot talk to my son because he does not know I know, we had a conversation last night where he said that there weren't many gays at his school just one that they guessed about in year 7 but the lad did not realise it himself until year 10.
Sorry long post but I am so upset, one minute I think I will tell my husband when he is home as I never keep anything from him but on the other I don't want to put him through this if it is just a phase.
I think the reason why you are upset is because the fact that your son has not been the way you wanted him has completely shocked and disappointed you, and because you know, how do you know i wonder, so you are deceiving him and his father, sounds like guilt to me reading his emails, texts etc. How would you feel if your parents did that to you when you were 18. Is all this angst worth it, you could lose trust, respect and most of all a relationship with your son who you obviously seem to care about.
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Really..i have no idea who you are..NewKittenHelp wrote: »Missing the old country/days/institution where people like me are hung from bridges for the amusement of people like you?Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0 -
NewKittenHelp wrote: »You know I'm gay, just as I know you've popped up multiple times in this topic makes snarky little remarks, leaving everyone in no doubt that you're a raging homophobe.
He also trolls for England, I am amazed he has never been PPR'd.Declutterbug-in-progress.⭐️⭐️⭐️ ⭐️⭐️0 -
NewKittenHelp wrote: »You know I'm gay, just as I know you've popped up multiple times in this topic makes snarky little remarks, leaving everyone in no doubt that you're a raging homophobe.
How could i possibly know you were gay...? Your username doesnt even ring a bell with me so perhaps i have failed to notice your posts in the past.
No matter..there is no need to tell me you are gay/str8/bi or anything since it is of no importance or interest to me. We are all the same and you are free to live your life as you wish and you have my blessing. I hope it is long and prosperous.Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0 -
C_Mababejive wrote: »My my..arent we all being ever so careful about discussing homosexuality..
Careful? In what way?
Happy moneysaving all.0 -
NewKittenHelp wrote: »Really? I find that surprising given you've taken such an interest in this thread. Why else would you repeatedly post inflammatory remarks?
But i have posts in many threads and this is but one. Your posts in this thread are far more numerous than mine and i only have a passing interest.Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0 -
I just note that many people are taking a somewhat aggressive stance with regard to the OP. It seems to me that this unfolding situation must be quite a shock to her and she is struggling as to how best to manage it.Careful? In what way?Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0
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