Husband has account on pay for sex site

somethingcorporate

You deserve better, this man is mentally abusing you.

I'd get you and your child away from this destructive behavior and down to the doctors quickly, just to check you haven't caught anything nasty from one of yours husbands "friends".

Sorry you are in this situation and sorry about your child.

sharnad

He's not going to be honest about what he has done. You can't find out as you can't access his computer. You can't tell if he has spent money on women as you don't have access to the accounts. Do you know how much money you should have in your account. I'm amazed it's not a joint account. How do you manage for money. I wouldn't trust him as far as I could throw him. At least if he has been sleeping with others and not you, You can catch anything from him

ecgirl07

catwithoutcream wrote: »

That's the thing Mikey - it is easily explainable, so whilst I've harboured doubts about the coffee cups etc, I was prepared to overlook them.

The photos are *not* in character for him. There were about 25. All of his genitals, none with his face, or any other identifiable part of him (his tattoos for example), and yes - they are definitely him. I thought it strange that he wouldn't be identifiable in intimate pics, if he was sending them to me, the timing - me in hospital giving birth - was also odd. I was never sent them, I found them later, and this was the excuse he gave. He had never before, nor since (at all in fact) sent me photos such as these.

The other thing - I didn't know him well. It was a bit of a whirlwind, he told me his ex had numerous affairs, and he was an honest, honourable family man, and I fell for it. I was a bit manic at the time, and we married within two months... yes I know - stupid! I gave up my council house, where I'd lived with my son (who was then an adult) as I thought he was 'the one'.

As I said, I've not met his mates. The only one I have met is his female friend, who used to sleep with him, till I came on the scene. She hasn't been friendly to me (she admitted she was in love with him), and she hasn't been in contact since our second child died.

He did communicate with his friends via facebook, but closed his account down, after our child died.

this is sounding very familiar. Im pretty sure you have posted on here before and have consistently been given the advice to get this man out of your life. Please listen this time.

Fire_Fox

I'd want to know what the cheating ex's side of the story is. And there is not a cat in hell's chance I'd stay with someone who was lying, manipulative, refusing to have a normal physical relationship, hiding all the finances AND had a fingerprint protected laptop. Please open your own current account and transfer all your benefits in.

It's up to you what you tell you parents, but maybe that he has lied to you repeatedly over more than one separate incident, you believe he still is and have no intention of apologising.

rosered1963

I am a bit worried about the OP and hope that it is being resolved. "Gaslighting" in action here.

Maureen43

OP, can you update us or just let us know how you are?