Husband has account on pay for sex site

esmf73

Oh honey, I just want to give you a hug, sorry that this is happening to you. If I can help as a sounding post, do pm me x

heartbreak_star

Is it also possible he's selling the intimate pics on Adultwork for extra cash?

HBS x

ms_london

FBaby wrote: »

The reality is that if he was genuinely angry because you didn't trust him, he would be desperate to prove you wrong, show you that indeed, he didn't do what you are accusing him off but only what he claims, so that the 'fault' could be passed back on to you (for not trusting him when you should).

:T:T - and as others have mentioned it is when he then turns the tables on to you and calls you "mad and paranoid" - this is an abusive trait! Also, the fact that you aren't allowed to look at the finances, and his laptop is fingertip protected - unfortunately it just screams that he has something to hide. I'm so sorry you are in this position.

Let him act like a baby - you need a man who is willing to take responsibility for you and your child, who makes you feel adored and loved - not some scumbag who manipulates you and is controlling!

ms_london

catwithoutcream wrote: »

He did communicate with his friends via facebook, but closed his account down, after our child died.

Oh god, I'm soooooo sorry to hear about that.

**hugs**

geoffky

I have a slight suspicion he might be bi/ gay?...What you have said about your sex life...can you access men on that site? and thats why he will not show you..Plus the photo..I may be wrong..

Idiophreak

Just to send mental hugs to you, OP.

I'm a bloke, so that may explain it, but I'm kinda shocked how tolerant you've been up to now.

I'd be expecting full disclosure of everything - these website accounts, bank statements etc - or showing him the door.

FBaby

I think it has reached a point that goes beyond proving what he has done. His secrecy alone is not acceptable in an healthy relationship. NOONE goes to such extend to protect their privacy without reasons. If HE is that paranoid, then he does have a serious problem regardless of what he has done.

Just picking up on the trip alone. Do you mean he went somewhere all on his own? Under which pretence? It's one thing to go somewhere with other buddies without partners, but all on his own.... How did this come about?

suited-aces

I'll say this for him, asking your in laws to tell your wife she's overreacting to you watching !!!!!! is a brave move!

poorly_scammo

suited-aces wrote: »

I'll say this for him, asking your in laws to tell your wife you're overreacting to watching !!!!!! is a brave move!

There's a fine line between bravery and stupidity though.

catkin1508

Honey in reading this and knowing what your going through TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!!!!! If you think he is up to something he probably is!! Sorry but I had this I knew something was going on just by OH behaviour actions, phone bills- if I were you I'd give him the option lay it on the table, all of it or call it a day. Obviously if he has lied do you think you could ever trust him again?? If you feel I'm your heat its over to you anyway walk away, get your benefits sorted and either ask him to leave or move out. Xxxx sounds harsh but just think in a few years he will just be a mistake you've moved on from. You could be in a fantastic relationship with a wonderful man who won't put you through this sort of thing.........
You also have a child to think about and I'm sorry but that money he has been using to pay for his 'hobbies' could have been used for the family xxxx
Sorry if it seems harsh but I just think you sound like a lovely person, too nice for this sort of crap and I think if you have tried making the effort to have an intimate relationship with him and he is not interested, why should you put yourself thru the heartbreak of him knocking you back when another man would snap there arm of to be with someone like you xxxxx