Single mum bein hounded

baza52

Every single parent with a 5yr old will be in the same position as yourself.
You keep saying people dont understand/know the facts.
Whats sets you apart from any other single parent?
If you dont tell us then we can only assume there is no difference.

Shak1rak

likelyfran wrote: »

So, you abandoned your young babies to the care of others, rather than you, their mother, being with them and caring for them yourself, and are now criticising other mothers who don't leave their very young children to get money.

I honestly don't get this attitude at all. Seriously, something seems very badly mixed up somewhere.

Nope, I don't 'abondon' my children, my eldest children are at school when I work my partners mum has my daughter whilst I work on a part time basis.
When my twin boys were one and a half they went into a full time private nursery and I stand fully behind my choices!!

I have more Aspiration in life than to just sit watching daytime television until my child is 5 then at the first inkling of my free ride ending I enquire into having another child just so I can continue doing nothing in life. Nothing for myself, nothing for my child, nothing for our futures!!

Now if that's the lazy attitude we all should have then where exactly would we all get our money from??

thorsoak

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

The comunity shop got shut down.

I think people are very rude on sayin I am a troll, I am human bein like you lot. I just wantin whats best for me adn my daughter thank you

If you are serious in saying that you want what is best for your daughter, then you must understand that in order to improve the lives of yourself and your daughter, you have to do something about your education - a GCSE in art is a start - but you need to improve your basic education - english and maths as a foundation.

I'm sorry that you are upset about being called a troll - but can you not see how your view that everyone is being "mean" to you is colouring our responses? Othere young women have posted how they have managed in circumstances similar to yours and how they have succeeded in making better lives for themselves and their childen. Please read their posts, and work out what would work for you.

DCFC79

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

The comunity shop got shut down.

I think people are very rude on sayin I am a troll, I am human bein like you lot. I just wantin whats best for me adn my daughter thank you

Thats a shame it was shut down, you can do whats best for your daughter by going to the local college and get help(or whatever they do) for your dyslexia.

Why did you do the gcse in art ? You obviously liked it, thought about taking it further eg A level ?

Ellejmorgan

princessdon wrote: »

In my LA school in deprived areas have FREE brekkie clubs - or heavily subsidesed - 50p etc.

My school I pay £6.40 a day

What do you mean by equipment? Do you mean books etc? yes they are free, it's just that they are not brought into school (ie left at home). It's not who paid for them it's their usage.

Yes that's what I meant, where do you get this info from, as at my kids school if the kids don't have what they need the teacher would pull you in the school yard and say so, if the kids are poorly presented that would be dealt with..
[I was responding to your previous statement that things are left at home and kids don't have what they need, pe kit and homework book]


Why is it £6.40 a day, is this for afterschool club too ??

Teahfc

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

The trolls work here is done

Spot on, a couple of WUM posts and the thread goes from a advice thread to one that belongs in discussions.
Best Saving your thoughts and help for those that need it rather than play silly games.

princessdon

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

Yes that's what I meant, where do you get this info from, as at my kids school if the kids don't have what they need the teacher would pull you in the school yard and say so, if the kids are poorly presented that would be dealt with..
[I was responding to your previous statement that things are left at home and kids don't have what they need, pe kit and homework book]


Why is it £6.40 a day, is this for afterschool club too ??

No the £6.40 is breakfast club- after school is a lot more (depends on pick up time), but is between £8 - £12.00 depending on time you pick up.

My previous statement is based on being a teacher and being a family support worker. Nearly all TAC meetings involve the school saying books not returned, PE kit not supplied, homework books not done etc.

I am certainly not saying ALL parents on benefits are like this (I did say many are amazing parents), but there is a trend that parents who have child after child to remain on benefits (often to different absent fathers), have problems at school.

This is why schools now employ people to get them up in the mornings, take the child to school at times, work with the school, family and social services etc.

OP (or someone like OP) has 2 choices. Start looking positively at the future, gain work, experience, qualifications or

Have yet another child - then in 5 years (or less because I don't think it will remain at aged 5) repeat the process.

Statistics of children whose parents are able to work (ie not carers or disabled) and who don't are often not as comparable as their peers.

This is why the cycle gets repeated over and over again.

It is why teachers keep breakfast bars in their drawers, have changes of clothing so the children are not stigmatised etc etc.

I made the post because someone said it was "acceptable" to stay on benefits and be a SAHM on benefits and that it was better for the child.

Grades and success of children will often disagree. It is why schools with higher proportion of working families will get higher/better grades than inner city areas of depravation.

It is why Sure Starts offer free childcare (from birth and again at 2 years old) etc.

Ellejmorgan

Thanks for clarifying,

I am currently having support by a sure start center, the worker is trying to help with my DLA claim so that it will help pay towards nursery for my 9 month old, this might be in your area but certainly isn't in mine..
I won't get any help with free childcare until baby is 2..

I don't understand why the cost of b/club is so high, they must be charging for the childcare too..
I think this is really wrong, and should be the same everywhere..

likelyfran

Dunroamin wrote: »

I doubt it very much.;)

How much love,affection etc. are you showing if you choose to allow someone else to support them ? Just how do you think that makes a child feel when they realise that you care so little?

Putting a roof over a child's head and food in it's belly are the most basic (and important) parts of being a parent.

But - bit in red - that's ALL about MONEY. Is that all you think parenting involves? It sounds like it! A child is surely more likely to remember and appreciate and benefit from affection and who it was from, rather than get the same warm feelings and benefit from who provided the money!

likelyfran

MABLE wrote: »

Funny Miss Piggy has not posted again since her opening debut.
Could be just being pig ignorant or a troll.

Could be. Or could be intimidated/sick of being judged.