Single mum bein hounded

MissPiggy50

Hi I were wonderin if anyone can give advice for me at moment?
I am 22 a single parent of five year old daughter and was on income support.
Have been put on JSA over last few months and findin it realy hard with gettin a job and bein pressured. Last week i was warned I may lose some money cuz I refused a job, 32 hours long, it was 15 miles from my house an wouldve ment not seein my daughter for nearly 8 hours a day. Have told them I just want part time hours not full time, to see my daughter.

Someone said just hav another kid and they leave you alone, is this true? I want to work but dont wont this pressure and threatening my money. I also have dyslexia adn on medication for diabetis.
They shouldnt be this heartless and give time to find the right job for me, and my dauhgter.

As anyone got any advice please?

sniggings

you say stopping your money for not taking the job?

was the job offered to you?

Or do you mean not going to the interview?

You need to do want they say or they will stop your money.

You can still go for the interview, it doesn't mean you will get the job but then they jobcentre can't stop your money.

And no they will not leave you alone if you have another child, once the child is old enough, they will expect you to work.

princessdon

I understood there were rules re those with young children etc

What were the hours?

Given the fact they are at school for nearly 7 hours a day how much did it impact your inability to see her?

Own_My_Own

Please please do not think about having another child. Being as single mother of one is hard enough. And you will only be in the same boat (if not worse) when that child reaches 5.

LittleMissGiggles123

If your daughter is in school you wont see her all day anyway. Working 8 hours a day is the norm & something that plenty of mothers have to do these days. I work Monday to Friday but make sure I make the time I spend with my daughters special in the evenings & weekends.

I don't think you're being hounded, i think the job centre are just following the rules. You can't expect to continue claiming benefits when you are fit to work & have a child to support

marybelle01

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

Hi I were wonderin if anyone can give advice for me at moment?
I am 22 a single parent of five year old daughter and was on income support.
Have been put on JSA over last few months and findin it realy hard with gettin a job and bein pressured. Last week i was warned I may lose some money cuz I refused a job, 32 hours long, it was 15 miles from my house an wouldve ment not seein my daughter for nearly 8 hours a day. Have told them I just want part time hours not full time, to see my daughter.

Someone said just hav another kid and they leave you alone, is this true? I want to work but dont wont this pressure and threatening my money. I also have dyslexia adn on medication for diabetis.
They shouldnt be this heartless and give time to find the right job for me, and my dauhgter.

As anyone got any advice please?

It's a fact of life that loads of parents don't see their children for 8 hours in a day. It's called working for a living. You may not have noticed but if there are 24 hours in a days then working 8 of them, as loads of parents do, leaves only 16 left to spend with them.

Welcome to the real world. Loads of parents want short hours at a workplace next door to home. They can't have them because they are responsible enough to want to better their children's lives by working and having an income. Not wondering whether having another kid will mean they don't have to.

rxbren

sorry but its time to grow up and get a job while your daughter is in school .
You obviously dont want to work and having another kid to not work is irresponsible you'd still have to work in the mean time anyway

hayday75

This post is a wind up ...for sure

colleensims

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

Hi I were wonderin if anyone can give advice for me at moment?
I am 22 a single parent of five year old daughter and was on income support.
Have been put on JSA over last few months and findin it realy hard with gettin a job and bein pressured. Last week i was warned I may lose some money cuz I refused a job, 32 hours long, it was 15 miles from my house an wouldve ment not seein my daughter for nearly 8 hours a day. Have told them I just want part time hours not full time, to see my daughter.

Someone said just hav another kid and they leave you alone, is this true? I want to work but dont wont this pressure and threatening my money. I also have dyslexia adn on medication for diabetis.
They shouldnt be this heartless and give time to find the right job for me, and my dauhgter.

As anyone got any advice please?

I cant believe what I have just read.

Dont want to be horrible but its called 'living in the real world'.

Your 22 which means you are an adult and with that comes adult responsibilities. You have a child to care for which is obviously your greatest concern but I cant believe you would even condsider having another one when you clearly cant cope with the situation you are in at the moment.

How long are they supposed to wait for a 'suitable' job to come to you? For all they know it could be 1,5, 10 or even 20 years, why should they keep providing for you?

Most people work at least 37.5 hours a week,and alot of hard working parents only see there children for a short amount of time a day, it wont harm your child, infact it will teach your child that you have to work hard and make sacrifices in life to get what you eventually want.

I hope your situation turns out ok in the end. goodluck.

joannaspanner

hayday75 wrote: »

This post is a wind up ...for sure

I did think that, but sadly, we're probably wrong.:(

real1314

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

Hi I were wonderin if anyone can give advice for me at moment?
I am 22 a single parent of five year old daughter and was on income support.
Have been put on JSA over last few months and findin it realy hard with gettin a job and bein pressured. Last week i was warned I may lose some money cuz I refused a job, 32 hours long, it was 15 miles from my house an wouldve ment not seein my daughter for nearly 8 hours a day. Have told them I just want part time hours not full time, to see my daughter.

Someone said just hav another kid and they leave you alone, is this true? I want to work but dont wont this pressure and threatening my money. I also have dyslexia adn on medication for diabetis.
They shouldnt be this heartless and give time to find the right job for me, and my dauhgter.

As anyone got any advice please?

What was the pay? Could it have led to better things? Would you have been able to give your child and yourself better prospects from taking up a job?

Or do you want to spend your entire life out of work?

It's easier to get the "right" job if you already have a job. Having a job that's difficult to get to/unappealing shows commitment to a work ethic, which most employers find preferable. :cool: