Single mum bein hounded

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Yeh! Have another kid! That's the way forward!!

While your at it, why not go down the job centre with some crutches and see if you get DLA too!!!

And hey!! When I get paid I'll give you all my money!!


Oh hold on.... This is life.

Get a grip.
Don't have another baby you can't afford.
Get the first job that comes along and THEN you can be pickier.

Sorry for the harsh reality, but tough!

FBaby

I became a single mum when my children were 18 months and 3 years old. I worked 32 hours and had no help from their dad except a few hours Saturdays and no family to help. I paid taxes some of it going to people on benefits. there are many more like me. why shoulda you have a choice to continue to be sorted with plenty of time for yourself? you were asked to work 6.5 hours a day not much less time left to spend with your daughter than if you were not working. Working to support your family is the norm whether you like it or not a choice.

morganedge

hayday75 wrote: »

This post is a wind up ...for sure

Probably not to be honest with you. I know a few girls who keep having children to avoid working and claiming more benefits. I mean, this topic takes up half of the content on this website, we know it happens, so i certainly wouldn't assume 'troll' when someone actually posts about contemplating it! lol.

angel1987

hi im a single parent and my daughter is now 2. when she was 1 i started working 27 hours a week, i travel 40 miles a day to and from work and only see my daughter in evenings, i work to provide a living for my daughter, with the cost of petrol, nursery etc im only left with a bit more then i would be on benefits but atleast im earning it and providing for my daughter. as for being dyslexic and diabetic, i suffer with hypermpbility and struggle to walk, drive etc some days but i just get on with it because its for my daughter.

before having another child think about what kind of role model you would be....

MissPiggy50

I am not saying I will be havin a baby for my benefits b4 everyone starts shoutin the odds, but some1 told me that if idid they would pay and take us off jobseekrs.


I just dont thnk its fair because it has only been a few months adn they are being very harsh and pushing me already.

Could I apply for the disbility payments with diabetis and dyslexia, also have severe migraine?

thanks

tomtom256

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

I am not saying I will be havin a baby for my benefits b4 everyone starts shoutin the odds, but some1 told me that if idid they would pay and take us off jobseekrs.


I just dont thnk its fair because it has only been a few months adn they are being very harsh and pushing me already.

Could I apply for the disbility payments with diabetis and dyslexia, also have severe migraine?

thanks

You could apply but would have to prove that these causes you to have a limited capability for work or for DLA that they cause you to have mobility and/or care needs.

Alternatively play the game and do what has been agreed for your JSA claim.

sarahg1969

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

I am not saying I will be havin a baby for my benefits b4 everyone starts shoutin the odds, but some1 told me that if idid they would pay and take us off jobseekrs.


I just dont thnk its fair because it has only been a few months adn they are being very harsh and pushing me already.

Could I apply for the disbility payments with diabetis and dyslexia, also have severe migraine?

thanks

You've had five whole years to get yourself educated and think about getting into work. Surely it's not a huge surprise to you? Did you think you could just kick back and relax forever?

I was a single parent from 18 to 23 and I worked full time the whole time. And went to college in the evenings. There's no way I'd have thought of doing anything else. And there's no way my parents would have allowed me to, either.

enabledebra

People don't make generally go through this kind of decision making process just to avoid JSA rather than IS -despite what the Daily Mail says. If this isn't a wind up the OP has some very severe anxieties about her ability to cope with working.

OP- you seem very worried about the prospect of having to work to the point that you are asking if having another child would mean that you wouldn't have to find a job. In your circumstances this implies that the father could be anyone and you wouldn't become a couple and that you would stay on benefits? Is there a significant reason (other than wanting to spend time with your daughter) to explain why you don't want to have to look for work? If there is, you need to say so and people will try to help.

rogerblack

sarahg1969 wrote: »

You've had five whole years to get yourself educated and think about getting into work. Surely it's not a huge surprise to you? Did you think you could just kick back and relax forever?

Well, to be fair, 5 years ago, IS was up to 12/16.

Fire_Fox

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

I am not saying I will be havin a baby for my benefits b4 everyone starts shoutin the odds, but some1 told me that if idid they would pay and take us off jobseekrs.

I just dont thnk its fair because it has only been a few months adn they are being very harsh and pushing me already.

Could I apply for the disbility payments with diabetis and dyslexia, also have severe migraine?

thanks

You are unlikely to be eligible for ESA, ot is an extremely tough benefit. 32 hours is a part time job and 15 miles is not far. They are pushing you because you are claiming benefits that say you are available for and actively seeking work, not will be at some point in the future. If you are not willing or able to do this you are not entitled to JSA and will have to find other ways of supporting yourself. The system is not fair, no, there are taxpayers out there working long hours for minimum wage to support you and your baby.

Isn't it on your jobseeker's agreement what hours you are willing and able to work - around your daughter and any health issues? If 32 hours doesn't fit they shouldn't be pushing you to apply for it, but you still have to apply for other suitable vacancies not fanny about. The disability adviser in the Jobcentre should be able to help you get it on your jobseeker's agreement that you need to limit your daily hours for health reasons.

Have you had help getting a great CV and covering letter together? If so start sending out CVs and letters to any company that fits in with your jobseekers agreement; many part time vacancies are never advertised so you won't be in a queue with loads of other applicants and sending CVs counts towards your tally of five a week.Alternatively have you thought about training as a childminder? Then you could stay at home with your daughter but also watch other children.