Single mum bein hounded

FBaby

OP don't you have any professional ambitions? Don't you dream of owning a nice house, going on nice holidays, enjoying some luxuries? Is it a case that you don't care, believe that a man should be supporting you and your child or that the tax payers should pay for all these?

What do you need more time for? You had a chance to get a job that could have allowed you to support yourself. It's not even a full day job. What do you expect?

Maybe you've been to spoilt with plenty of time for your own self especially when your child would have been entitled to free nursery time so the prospect of a packed and tiring day comes as a huge shock to you but that is the reality for most people whether single or not.

It does make me wonder how your own parents support their family.

Murphy_Gooner

Maybe its worth going too the interview and speaking with them about what support would they have for your dyslexia and diabetes.
Also find out about flexible working options which as being a parent you have rights too.

I think going on some courses which would help build your confidence and help with the dyslexia would be of more benefit rather then being chucked in at the deep end.

Its all ok everyone saying for her too get on with it but obviously there issues where OP has worries/concerns of going into nearly full time work where she has been out of work for i would presume for 5yrs.

marybelle01

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

I am not saying I will be havin a baby for my benefits b4 everyone starts shoutin the odds, but some1 told me that if idid they would pay and take us off jobseekrs.

That is exactly what you are saying and you have said it twice now! There is no purpose at all in even asking whether this is true - as you have done - unless you are seriously considering it as an option. If you have no intention of having another child, or not at present (which, being a single parent and not in a stable relationship, would be the sensible thing) then why even ask if it is true?

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

I just dont thnk its fair because it has only been a few months adn they are being very harsh and pushing me already.

Why on earth is it harsh to expect someone receiving a benefit for those fit and capable of working to actually seek work and to take it when offered it? You are at liberty to refuse to seek work or to take work any time you want. You just can't have the benefits as well.

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

Could I apply for the disbility payments with diabetis and dyslexia, also have severe migraine?

Diabetes, dyslexia and now severe migraine. Oh dear. Will it be painful periods next? People work with all these conditions.

OP, all you are looking for here is the right to benefits without working. If one strategy doesn't work you are trying for another one - anything that will bring in benefits and involve you not having to get a job. The people who pay for those benefits are people who are working, and supporting their children, and coping with health problems, and bills and rent and all the other things that go with normal life. Few people begrudge benefits to those who genuinely cannot work or cannot find work, but many do begrudge paying for those who will do anything at all to avoid working when they are perfectly capable of doing so. Which you are. Instead of looking for any excuse to avoid working, you need to be looking at what you need to do to get in to work and to support yourself and your child.

clearingout

OP - even on minimum wage working only 16 hours a week, you will be so much better off than you are now. Working has huge benefits which are not only financial and as you're still very young, you should find that gaining yourself some independence will have an enormous, positive impact on your life in many, many ways. You have plenty of time to meet someone decent and settle into a secure relationship and then have more children. That's a far better life for your child than you will be able to give if you keep on getting pregnant as a method of work avoidance. Get down to your local college and look at your options there as well as looking at childcare and try and find yourself a starter job. You can acheive so much if you put your mind to it - give yourself a chance!

garynuman

Is the OP dyslexic? or is the "g" key missing from her keyboard?

Metranil_Vavin

Maybe the OP could put in a claim for trollism.

There's a lot of it about....:D

themull1

Diabetes, dyslexia and now severe migraine. Oh dear. Will it be painful periods next? People work with all these conditions.

My partner has diabetes, cancer, gout and thyroid trouble, he works full time, i've worked since i was 16, for the last 28 years, and had two kids along the way, why should we pay for you to sit at home all day (when your daughter is at school) and watch Trisha etc...? How is that fair?

thorsoak

MissPiggy50 wrote: »

I am not saying I will be havin a baby for my benefits b4 everyone starts shoutin the odds, but some1 told me that if idid they would pay and take us off jobseekrs.


I just dont thnk its fair because it has only been a few months adn they are being very harsh and pushing me already.

Could I apply for the disbility payments with diabetis and dyslexia, also have severe migraine?

thanks

So, you were 17 when you had your daughter, you have been on benefits for the whole of your adult "working" life - and,with "health problems" of diabetes, dyslexia and migranes, you are contemplating another baby in order to maximise benefits?

I would suggest something radically different - get a life instead!

I can see no reason why you should be taken off Jobseekers - as others have said, your daughter will be at school (that is, of course, providing you get up early enough to get her to school) and you can do what other people have to do, which is to live in the real world, where YOU earn your own living, pay your own bills and bring your daughter up to do the same. That way you will gain self-respect, in all probability your diabetes will become under control (and no, you can't get ESA for diabetes - my sister has had lifelong diabetes and now has to self-inject and has always worked).

It's called living in the real world.

WantToBeSE

Oh God! I am a single mum on benefits (unfortunately for 3 months now ) and its other single parents like the OP that give us all a bad name!

Seriously people, we arent all like this!!

MissPiggy50

clearingout wrote: »

OP - even on minimum wage working only 16 hours a week, you will be so much better off than you are now. Working has huge benefits which are not only financial and as you're still very young, you should find that gaining yourself some independence will have an enormous, positive impact on your life in many, many ways. You have plenty of time to meet someone decent and settle into a secure relationship and then have more children. That's a far better life for your child than you will be able to give if you keep on getting pregnant as a method of work avoidance. Get down to your local college and look at your options there as well as looking at childcare and try and find yourself a starter job. You can acheive so much if you put your mind to it - give yourself a chance!

This is what I am lookin for even 25 hours.

Poeple are having a go here but I have been on my own for 5 years, father is disapeeared, my parents are in new zealand and brother is in london so it has been all up to me since she were born.

I did refuse the job interview, it was shifts till seven and was in dog food packing which I hate adn cant stand.

Theres not much advise here just do this and do that without knowing all the facts, lots of you sound like my advisor and are very unsimpethetic!!