Single mum bein hounded

likelyfran

CKhalvashi wrote: »

This parent saw their children for 2 weeks one year, as I was working away from OH and kids. It's life. It happens!

Yes, everything just 'happens', we have no choice in any of it. Too bad for the kids eh.

Dunroamin

likelyfran wrote: »

Really?????

Not: love, compassion, affection, reassurance, communication, time, fun or anything like that???

(Is is just because you is a man? )

I doubt it very much.;)

How much love,affection etc. are you showing if you choose to allow someone else to support them ? Just how do you think that makes a child feel when they realise that you care so little?

Putting a roof over a child's head and food in it's belly are the most basic (and important) parts of being a parent.

custardy

likelyfran wrote: »

Their choice entirely.

except the opposite choice is being removed for many now.
reality bites

mummyroysof3

likelyfran wrote: »

Sorry but I just find this post so patronising.
And I'm amazed that neither you nor anyone else here has asked what does this young mother do with her very young child when she's working.
Has no-one picked up that she hasn't said anything about that?
Since there's so much judgement flying around.... I personally think it's wrong to shunt very young children out to other people to look after.
Glaringly wrong!

i noticed that she didnt mention who cares for child either..my guess would be she gets help from TC for childcare or her parents/family do.

Metranil_Vavin

The trolls work here is done

Murphy_Gooner

melb wrote: »

instead of paying £1000 per month on childcare why don't one of you work part-time or try and work opposite shifts. your twins might like seeing more of their parents and you would be better off financially. Don't understand this obsession of how many hours we can work a week to show what good parents and role models we are when our little kids are being shunted off to childcare every day for 8 or 10 hours or wrap-around care at school from 8.00am to 6.00 pm. What is there to be proud of there? It's a damn sight easier to be off to work at 8 in the morning and leaving someone else to look after the kids than entertaining toddlers all day.

Exactly....I dont understand why people have kids only too both be at work all day everyday lol The kids childminder will be acting more of a parent then what the actual parents who brought the child into the world would be.
Surely you would want some bond, see the child make his/her first steps?
For the sake of some what a £200 which im sure you could probably break even if one of the parents was full time when the other was at most part time.

The whole point of tax credits and look deep into the word CREDIT. Yes its a credit not a benefit....TAX....CR-ED-IT

Dunroamin

Murphy_Gooner wrote: »

The whole point of tax credits and look deep into the word CREDIT. Yes its a credit not a benefit....TAX....CR-ED-IT

You can shout it all you like, tax credits are benefits. You also seem to forget that child tax credits, unlike tax allowances, are paid even when there is no household income to pay tax on.

Murphy_Gooner

rxbren wrote: »

im going to go out on a limb and say all those defending the op are in the same situation all claiming benefits and sat at home all day getting paid to look after there kids
whats a better example for our kids sit at home on your !!! and get money for nothing or actually work to pay the bills and take pride in the fact that you can afford to pay for child care and buy the things your children need
who would you pick as your role model

You are wrong and just shows your complete and utter ignorance.
I agree she should be working, but hours which will suit her working around her childs school hours.
She is a single parent and i believe she should be there for the child in evenings to be a parent like cooking, cleaning, putting child to bed etc.

For your information i work and have Chronic Fatigue and my partner has bi-polar. We claim nothing and my kids go too school and nursery (15 hrs)
I have worked since i left school and went to evening college in my early 20's

MABLE

Funny Miss Piggy has not posted again since her opening debut.
Could be just being pig ignorant or a troll.

FBaby

If you can afford to work part time our not at all then great. Maybe it is something to aspire to when planning to have children although hasn't mums are better mums working than at home looking after the kids but that's another debate. The problem it's when people have children without any consideration of the consequences and then expect to choose to raise their kids the way they believe is best for the kids. having it BEST if a luxury not a choice unless your can afford it.