Single mum bein hounded

Face1992

likelyfran wrote: »

You don't think terming it 'a whole GCSE in art' is sarcastic?
Are you trolling? Seriously?

Well it's better than half a GCSE isn't it?

System

Face1992 wrote: »

Well it's better than half a GCSE isn't it?

I have one of those....in art funnily enough..well drawing and painting..not sure what possessed me to do that

likelyfran

Face1992 wrote: »

You are missing the point.

In this country, benefits are very generous to people who have children. Yet a national charity is fundraising for kids in this country who apparently don't get a hot meal everyday (they obviously forget about the free school dinners they get 5 days a week).

Throwing more money at the parents won't make an iota of a difference, it;s HOW the parents CHOOSES to spend the money the get for the children that is the problem. Too many think cigs, beer, mobiles and bingo is more important than feeding and clothing their kids.

Bit in red - I agree with you. It's a disgrace, but those people would be bad parents/a menace to society whether they were getting state benefits or not! Face it, the bottom line for all the objectors is their own MONEY.

Face1992

likelyfran wrote: »

Bit in red - I agree with you. It's a disgrace, but those people would be bad parents/a menace to society whether they were getting state benefits or not! Face it, the bottom line for all the objectors is their own MONEY.

I don't think it is.

I think people have grown tired of the layabouts always getting more than them and talking about using their taxes to pay for them is their way to articulate how peeved they are.

I think most sensible people realise that the money they pay in tax every month isn't going direct to the layabout at number 4 with 4 kids and another on the way who is claiming everything going.

thorsoak

skibadee wrote: »

Although I also think the OP is possibly a TROLL....one thing I think that needs to be said in regard to some of the replies is....I too do not see why its so difficult to consider working, I was a single mum of 3 for many years and worked and there was not the financial help available then like there is now for people in that position.
BUT
However I find it a bit harsh when people slate others as benefit scroungers/being funded by ''them'' as tax payers etc.,....yet I have no doubt that at least a few of these people/familes are recieving CTC/WTC incluing help towards their childcare.....please remember there are people out there in employment, not claiming any benefits, CTC/WTC etc., who are also ''funding'' you

I firmly believe in the ethic "from each according to his means, to each according to his needs" - but that does not mean "according to his wants".

Anyone these days can find themselves in the predicament of needing help - and that help should be given generously. But those like the OP who have never ever even attempted to help themselves do need the metaphorical kick up the backside to get themselves out of the slough that they have ended up in (ouch ...what bad grammar - but too late at night to rephrase it!) .

It is quite understandable that those who work for a small wage, who pay taxes as well as receiving tax credits, should feel resentful when they get their children up a silly o'clock in order to get them into breakfast club/childminder whilst those on benefits can sleep in and slum it all day without even attempting to help themselves.

taxi36

I am 18 years old. I have an 8 month old Son. I go to work 16-20 hours per week.

I work in a food place where we do different shifts every week and we get a rota at the end of the week telling us what shifts we will be doing for the week ahead. Every week without fail I ask my Manageress if she has any additional shifts I could do. If she has extra thats great , Im over the moon but if she doesnt then I make sure she knows that I am willing to cover , even at short notice if someone calls in sick etc.

I would rather work hard to support my Son than consider having another Baby just so I can get benefits!

Getting out to work allows me to get some time away from being Mum , it allows me to mix with other people my own age. To be honest I enjoy going to work as it gives me money to spend on my Son when I am with him and it makes me enjoy the time I have with him so much more.

Much as I love my Son I enjoy working.

To the Lady who posted this originally . With the help of tax credits it really does benefit you to be a working parent today.

Toni x

Dunroamin

likelyfran wrote: »

Bit in red - I agree with you. It's a disgrace, but those people would be bad parents/a menace to society whether they were getting state benefits or not! Face it, the bottom line for all the objectors is their own MONEY.

Not me, sunshine - I frequently post that we should pay more tax to finance better education and healthcare for all.

The best gift any parent can give their child is the knowledge that they care enough about them to go out and work to support them.

Ellejmorgan

marybelle01 wrote: »

Sorry - another paper I don't read! So it went over my head...

I sort of agree with the sentiment - being disabled doesn't stop people, but we live in a society where a lot of people and employers think it does. We can only have a just society where disabled people can contribute if the rest of society stops seeing them as a problem but an opportunity. That said, I agree that it takes more than the government attempting to force people into niches that don't fit them. If the government truly wish to help disabled people into work them their target needs to be employers - not people with disabilities. The vast majority of people with disabilities would chose to work if they could. The biggest barrier is employers - not their disability.

I fully agree with this, with spinal problems if I was to apply for a job even if I secured an interview, they would deem me a health and safety risk, eg, I wouldn't be able to work with hot food or drink as if I dropped it I would put others and myself at risk..
I couldn't lift or carry anything either..

Employers know this, given the choice between me and a healthy person they would choose a healthy person, they can have their pick as so many applications for even one job..


Everyone is going on at the op, but didn't she write 'someone else suggested to have a baby' I don't recall reading a post where the op said she wanted a child or was trying for one..

OP has diabetes, do we know if it's under control, she also has migraines, I've read on here that someone was in the SG of ESA for cluster headaches..
Op could be unwell, I don't understand why she is have such negativity I don't feel it's constructive..


To the poster who said they paid for the lasses tea, I'm on benefits too, but you didn't pay for mine, my food shopping was free this week...;)

skibadee

taxi36 wrote: »

I am 18 years old. I have an 8 month old Son. I go to work 16-20 hours per week.

I work in a food place where we do different shifts every week and we get a rota at the end of the week telling us what shifts we will be doing for the week ahead. Every week without fail I ask my Manageress if she has any additional shifts I could do. If she has extra thats great , Im over the moon but if she doesnt then I make sure she knows that I am willing to cover , even at short notice if someone calls in sick etc.

I would rather work hard to support my Son than consider having another Baby just so I can get benefits!

Getting out to work allows me to get some time away from being Mum , it allows me to mix with other people my own age. To be honest I enjoy going to work as it gives me money to spend on my Son when I am with him and it makes me enjoy the time I have with him so much more.

Much as I love my Son I enjoy working.

To the Lady who posted this originally . With the help of tax credits it really does benefit you to be a working parent today.

Toni x

Well Done to you!!!....lets hope the OP reads and learns from your post.
Not only can you feel proud of yourself for finding a job and working you should also be proud of doing this whilst having a young child/baby and being able to find the work/child compromise ( not sure thats the right word!! ) and at such a young age.
You should be very proud of yourself and the impression your showing your son.......:)

Face1992

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

I fully agree with this, with spinal problems if I was to apply for a job even if I secured an interview, they would deem me a health and safety risk, eg, I wouldn't be able to work with hot food or drink as if I dropped it I would put others and myself at risk..
I couldn't lift or carry anything either..

Employers know this, given the choice between me and a healthy person they would choose a healthy person, they can have their pick as so many applications for even one job..


Everyone is going on at the op, but didn't she write 'someone else suggested to have a baby' I don't recall reading a post where the op said she wanted a child or was trying for one..

OP has diabetes, do we know if it's under control, she also has migraines, I've read on here that someone was in the SG of ESA for cluster headaches..
Op could be unwell, I don't understand why she is have such negativity I don't feel it's constructive..


To the poster who said they paid for the lasses tea, I'm on benefits too, but you didn't pay for mine, my food shopping was free this week...;)

It must be hard work carrying a baby around when you've said an employer would deem you as a health and safety risk. Would it only be kettles and stuff you would drop?