Would you feel the same?

flutterby_lil

My just turned 4 year old son has better manners than your soon to be ex!!

Run, run, run, and run some more hon. Been there, done that, nothing will change. One of my ex boyfriends cheated on me and got another girl pregnant after us being together only 3months. I stayed and it got worse, took me 10 years to leave, what a waste. He has since gone to prison for drug dealing!! Glad I got out of that one.

I now have a gorgeous 4 year old and beautiful 3 month old baby girl, never thought I would meet anyone else but I have a perfect family now.

Put yourself first hon.

warehouse

coinxoperated wrote: »

told myself it was a drunken mess.

He's done some things in the last few months which have knocked my trust.

It feels like I'm nagging him all the time and I hate it. I've told him I don't want to nag him.

I went over to the guy a bit later on and apologised out of view of my bf.

I was livid.

He maintains I shouldn't dance with any other men in any way.

I don't have many male friends

My bf then proceeded to come home, storm off to bed, get up again, wee in my sink, then back to bed, and wet the bed.

I didn't want to make a massive deal about it. He got too drunk, that's all.

It's now 18:44pm, and he's only just changing the bed after I had to argue with him to do it. I'm just disgusted. I really am.

An I over reacting?

I've had some horrible relationships before

What can I do to make it better?

The above are all from your first post, add on top of this that you don't even want to have sex with the bloke now and I think you know where it's heading. You will end up in an abusive relationship that will eventually wreck your self confidence until you are stuck with this compelte to**er.

Seriously, you need to get out now.

coinxoperated

Once again, thanks all for your advice

bargainbetty

coinxoperated wrote: »

Other than snogging another girl, (which he seemed genuinely upset about doing), he's maintained that he has ben in the right even after sobering up.

He starts fights, physically assaults people, behaves like a jealous child and doesn't think that's a bad thing at all?

Don't get me wrong, I want it, I just don't want him doing it with me! I almost feel like I have too sometimes just in the hope it'll make us closer.

Just the other night, even though to him I was going along with his advances, I was wishing it was just over and done with in my head.

This is not love. This is settling for on your part and borderline coercion on his. This is not what you deserve - you shouldn't be having sex if you don't want it, for whatever reason.


Maybe it's me and my priorities that are wrong?

No love, it's not you. It's him. Your boyfriend is an immature a**ehole.

He is drinking to a point where he is violent, aggressive, unfaithful and loses control of his bladder.

If you love him enough to try, sit him down when neither have you have been drinking and tell him honestly that you feel he is being unreasonable in his behaviour. Acknowledge that you are very focused on your career, but try to make him realise you don't love him less. However, you expect him to show more respect for you and your home. He doesn't have the right to tell you who to dance with or talk to, and if he makes a mess then he needs to clean it up. If he refuses, strops off, gets drunk or whatever, you might have to kick him out. He will grow up and beg you to take him back, or he won't.

You really deserve better than this. Peeing in the sink? Really?

consultant31

If your best friend or your sister came to you with this problem - what would you advise her to do? There you are then, you have your answer