Would this annoy you?

Cherry_Bomb

Mojisola wrote: »

If the gift is one where I'd spent the usual amount and chosen it for the recipient, I wouldn't have any problems with the receiver selling it on, regifting it or whatever.

This case was different because the godmother spent more than she usually would and the god-daughter specifically asked for tickets for that show and was well aware than she was getting a gift that was costing more than her usual birthday present.

After being told to pick a show. The OP offered from the start to buy her theatre tickets. The goddaughter didn't ask.

Mojisola

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

I don't see that as the girl's problem. The godmother offered the gift, I don't think it's on to ascribe different rules depending on the value of the gift. Either you give in the spirit of giving, or you don't.

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

After being told to pick a show. The OP offered from the start to buy her theatre tickets. The goddaughter didn't ask.

Well, you two are in the god-daughter and her mother's camp.

I see it differently.

peachyprice

daisiegg wrote: »

MrCow is a she???

Mindblowing, isn't it.

NewKittenHelp

Mojisola wrote: »

Well, you two are in the god-daughter and her mother's camp.

I see it differently.

I don't think I am. There aren't two sides to this.

londonsurrey

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

I don't think I am. There aren't two sides to this.

I'll bite. How many sides are there?

tea_lover

I don't think age has anything to do with it either - she's 19. That's easily old enough to have developed some manners.

I think it's a shame for her sake though - she wasted a brilliant opportunity to do something that would have interested her for the sake of some perfume! That is shallow at a whole new level.

ETA: she's also wasted a good relationship with her god mother and the chance of any more decent presents from her!

aliasojo

Maybe the girl played the OP from the outset and was thinking of what she could do with the refund money as soon as she got the offer made to her.

Maybe that's why she was jumping up and down with excitement. :rotfl:

peachyprice

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

I don't think I am. There aren't two sides to this.

Of course there are. There are those who think out of courtesy the girl should have at least told OP she didn't want the tickets (I don't suppose for one minute OP would have taken them back, that isn't what this is about) and then there are those without decent manners, like you, who don't think OP desereved that courtesy.

londonsurrey

If someone did this to me, I wouldn't give credence to any future stories they told me. So the usual things I would chip in for, e.g. if they decided to go travelling for a year, to save for a plush honeymoon, if their car had broken down and they were struggling or any other hard luck stories or them asking for a loan for something, I wouldn't trust them enough to part with any money again.

Cherry_Bomb

londonsurrey wrote: »

It's a slightly awkward conversation, but nothing that the godmother could not have handled. She does have, and I would hope as does the majority of the population, the requisite degree of social polish to deal with it.

And given the alternatives, it was the most civil thing to have done. We aren't supposed to simply avoid conversations on the grounds that they're about awkward situations!

Are you saying that the girl did her godmother a kindness by avoiding that conversation altogether?

Absolutely not! I do think she should have had the decency to tell OP but what I'm saying is how the conversation would have gone.

Goddaugter has already been vilified for being a rude, inconsiderate and not forgetting shallow (??) so I imagine her ability to handle an awkward situation would be somewhat lacking. As the OP is clearly upset about what has happened what good would have come from it? I want my money back or no you keep the money. I don't really want you do but keep it anyway.