Would this annoy you?

viscachaz

Could she have debt no-one knows about? Or someone she knows is struggling, and she doesn't want anyone to know? If you don't know the absolute ins and outs of her finances then you can't say either way really.. The fact from what she said, you can't identify exactly what she spent what on, and she (from what you said) came across a bit defensive, this could be the case! (Been there, done that, but not in a situation like this.. more being given money to buy myself something nice for an occasion, and inventing something I could have bought - with the money going into my account to try and reduce the horrific overdraft!

That or she could just be incredibly selfish and rude!!

System

When you think about it the girl has been quite clever (as well as devious). You see she could only make use of the one ticket (the other would have gone to a friend).

What she has actually done has sell both i am presuming for more than the £40 (which is what her one ticket would have cost).

CH27

I would be furious & very sad and would look at my God Daughter in a very different light.

Abbafan1972

What a previous poster said was good. You could've offered to come with her, that way you would've been able to keep hold of the tickets yourself.

Then she may not have been so quick to accept and instead would probably have said "no it's ok, I'll just have some money to treat myself instead".

But hindsight is a wonderful thing, isn't it?

Brighton_belle

Abbafan1972 wrote: »

What a previous poster said was good. You could've offered to come with her, that way you would've been able to keep hold of the tickets yourself.

But why would the OP have done that? She had no reason to 'keep hold of the tickets herself'. The treat was for her GD to take a friend her own age. And the OP mightn't be remotely interested in musicals.

sulkisu

Her 18th birthday was a complete non-starter. She broke her ankle a few weeks before her birthday and then her younger brother contracted meningitis. Her boyfriend (first love) dumped her the day before, so not much celebrating going on. I suppose I wanted this one to be special to help make up for that.

I didn't offer to take her to the show because I am heavily pregnant (with twins) and had no wish to sit through a three hour musical - besides, I assumed that she would prefer to take a friend, sister or the new boyfriend.

It is not so much the money, or the effort of hunting down tickets which gets to me, it's the feeling of being played. Funnily enough, unlike her mother her father and step-father are both totally unimpressed, especially as they both also gave her money for her birthday. She's away at the moment but I will speak to her when she returns. I didn't say anything at the time because I was completely taken aback. Her mother and OH's responses made me think that I was wrong to be annoyed, but as I said in my first post, it has been grating at me ever since.

pleasedelete

Wouldnt bother me at all but I return most of the gifts I receive and expect everyone else to do the same! I only give cash to anyone over 12!

My 80 year old father in law was so chuffed with his £10 in a card!

Sambucus_Nigra

Basically it boils down to - you now consider her to be a liar as she played you for a fool and it seems had no intention of going to the musical in the first place.

claire16c

I think its incredibly rude and cant believe someone would even dare to do that.

I wouldnt give her anything but a card next year.