Would this annoy you?

Cherry_Bomb

peachyprice wrote: »

Of course there are. There are those who think out of courtesy the girl should have at least told OP she didn't want the tickets (I don't suppose for one minute OP would have taken them back, that isn't what this is about) and then there are those without decent manners, like you, who don't think OP desereved that courtesy.

Alternatively there's the side who believes giving a gift doesn't give a person automatic control over how it's used. Of course disagreeing with the majority simply MUST mean I'm lacking in manners.

Is there a rolls eyes smiley? I could use one right now.

tea_lover

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Alternatively there's the side who believes giving a gift doesn't give a person automatic control over how it's used.

I think what we're saying is that receiving a gift shouldn't give a person automatic leave of their manners.

londonsurrey

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Absolutely not! I do think she should have had the decency to tell OP but what I'm saying is how the conversation would have gone.

Goddaugter has already been vilified for being a rude, inconsiderate and not forgetting shallow (??) so I imagine her ability to handle an awkward situation would be somewhat lacking. As the OP is clearly upset about what has happened what good would have come from it? I want my money back or no you keep the money. I don't really want you do but keep it anyway.

The OP is upset at not being kept informed, and the attitude of "Oh, that money that you gave me for the tickets I'd asked for? Yes, I spent it on something else".

I don't think that she would have difficulty cheerily telling her goddaughter to keep the money. I certainly wouldn't.

Bear in mind that all the "villification" you describe has happened on this thread - they are not words the OP has used on her goddaughter, so the goddaughter would not be associating them in any relationship between herself and her godmother unless the goddaughter has done things that cause her to associate those words with herself!

peachyprice

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

Of course disagreeing with the majority simply MUST mean I'm lacking in manners.

If the majority agreed with you I would think the majority were lacking in manners.

Cherry_Bomb

londonsurrey wrote: »

The OP is upset at not being kept informed, and the attitude of "Oh, that money that you gave me for the tickets I'd asked for? Yes, I spent it on something else".

She's spoken about the cost of the tickets, how it's a lot more than what she'd normally spend and how next year she's getting a a card and a voucher. My opinion of that is that it's more about the gift than not being kept informed.

I can't see anywhere OP has said goddaughter mentioned so matter-of-factly what she had spent the money on. For all we know she could have gushed on for 10 minutes about what she ''treated herself'' too

londonsurrey

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

She's spoken about the cost of the tickets, how it's a lot more than what she'd normally spend and how next year she's getting a a card and a voucher. My opinion of that is that it's more about the gift than not being kept informed.

I can't see anywhere OP has said goddaughter mentioned so matter-of-factly what she had spent the money on. For all we know she could have gushed on for 10 minutes about what she ''treated herself'' too

If you read it, I stated it as the attitude, the OP being presented with a fait accompli.

The girl has had years and years of presents from the OP, and has an idea of the usual value range of the presents. She knows that the value this year was higher, and to not connect it with the cost of the tickets would point to some processing problems we have had no indication of.

Cherry_Bomb

londonsurrey wrote: »

If you read it, I stated it as the attitude, the OP being presented with a fait accompli.

The girl has had years and years of presents from the OP, and has an idea of the usual value range of the presents. She knows that the value this year was higher, and to not connect it with the cost of the tickets would point to some processing problems we have had no indication of.

An assumption!

None of us know if the goddaughter is aware of the value of previous presents. I don't know about you, maybe it's because I lack manners but I don't go out of my way to buy cheap looking presents in the hope the recipient is aware of the true value.

thehappybutterfly

It's a slap in the face though isn't it? You take the time to buy someone a gift that you put a lot of thought into that you absolutely know they'll love and they sell it and take the cash? That's shallow and self-centred and downright rude.

I am always grateful and appreciative of every single gift I get - even if I hate it. I would never put the gift-giver in a position of feeling stupid and used. I smile graciously and say thank you.

Mojisola

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

None of us know if the goddaughter is aware of the value of previous presents.

sulkisu wrote: »

She was jumping up and down saying 'yes please', 'thank you', 'are you sure'? It might be expensive etc.

It sounds as if she realised the tickets would cost more than her usual present.

NewKittenHelp

londonsurrey wrote: »

I'll bite. How many sides are there?

As many as there are opinions.