Would this annoy you?

Mindless_Clone

sulkisu wrote: »

I am p****ed off to say the least. OH takes the view that the tickets were given to her and therefore she was free to do what she wanted to do with them. I suppose he has a point (in a way) and at first I thought that at least she got something that she wanted, but on the other hand I feel like a total mug.

It's her right I suppose and your DH has a point but you also reserve the right to be miffed about it - not so much for the money but the time and effort into getting something she really wanted.
Oh well, you live and learn; she won't be doing that to you again.

wendym

Sorry if this has already been said (my computer is playing up) but it shows just how 'committed' she is to her apparent great interest in theatre etc etc.

londonsurrey

Spendless wrote: »

Thinking about it thru her eyes. She's 19, the family doesn't have lots of money. She perhaps feels that she misses out perhaps in not having a bottle of perfume for her nights out with her mates or they have a better brand make up, she'd love a CD of her favourite artist. All of a sudden she has the potential to have these things by flogging the tickets you give her. She gives no thought to the fact that you are treating her in order for her to see a show, she just sees that instead of having one night at the theatre, she can have these things she's previously lacked. She's also given no thought to you only spent the amount you did because it was to see a show. If she'd said to you when asked well I'd really love a bottle of <whatever> or certain brand make up or a CD. I should imagine you would have bought within your budget something she'd mentioned, but you wouldn't have been buying her £80 worth.

Yes, it's having different values.

I agree with you.
If she were 8, I'd put it down to not knowing better, and endeavour to explain it to her.
At 19, she knew what she was doing.

KateLiana27

This is why I don't buy anyone expensive gifts.

Take it as a lesson learned. In future give her a nice card with good wishes, and a £10 gift voucher if you're feeling generous.

savingmummy

I think thats really ungrateful

Its not like you just bought it and gave it, you had asked beforehand and she had chosen the play herself!!

I`d be annoyed too and i`d be fuming if my child did that.

londonsurrey

KateLiana27 wrote: »

This is why I don't buy anyone expensive gifts.

Take it as a lesson learned. In future give her a nice card with good wishes, and a £10 gift voucher if you're feeling generous.

It's a bit extreme to let the bad apples spoil your pleasure with decent people though. I took pleasure in suggesting and picking jewellery for my husband's goddaughter, so that over the years, she would accumulate a nice collection of assorted items for when she became a young lady who would use such things.

I got expensive presents to mark weddings, and significant birthdays, and yes, there were people who turned out to be false, and I regret spending time with them, never mind the presents! But I look back on the lovely items I bought true friends, and take pleasure in recalling their delight and knowing that I helped make those times good for them.

Brighton_belle

The OP went out of her way to do something kind, in responce to the GD's wistful longing. It seems like a slap in the face to me by the GD.
I don't agree that the once the gift is given that is 'nothing to do with you'. Different gifts have differnt levels of importance.
A gift such as this is specifically given as an 'experience'. If I knew my GD really really wanted something out of her reach, and my heart strings responded to that to give her that experience by stretching myself a little financially, then the gift would have unwritten strings attached. I don't see anything wrong with that, it wasn't forced on the girl, she doubly confirmed she would love it.
There are plenty of times for the more casual no strings gifts, something like this is exceptional.

I wouldn't be forking out for 'driving lessons' and such like in the future if this had been done to me. If I give money for driving lessons and it is spent on CDs I'd be furious and feel played, and this doesn't seem any different.

*Louise*

I would have been annoyed at this situation as well - all well and good if the tickets were just given, but to choose the show and then just not bother is more than a bit rude.

OP - what you should have done is offered to take her out for a night at the theatre in the first place instead of giving her tickets - that way you would have got one ticket, she wouldn't have had them to flog and you would have spent some time together.


Wish I got good prezzies like that for a regular age birthday. :T
I met my Godfather this year at my dads funeral - haven't seen him for 30 years, never even had a card from him. You sound like a thoughtful person and I'm sorry to hear your gift has been wasted. (Although at least a couple of people you don't know will have had a good night out!)

Abbafan1972

Cherry_Bomb wrote: »

After being told to pick a show. The OP offered from the start to buy her theatre tickets. The goddaughter didn't ask.

I got the impression from the OP that the God-daughter expressed an interest first in going to a show, it wasn't forced on her.

Knowing what I know now, I would have given the ungrateful girl some money and it would've been significantly less than £80!

Northern_Princess

I would have been furious to be honest. I think what your God daughter did was extremely rude, especially when she seemed so keen to go in the first place. Next year I would give a card minus any gift if I were you. I personally would also have voiced my displeasure when she told me she had 'treated' herself by selling the tickets. Also if my DD had sold tickets gifted to her I would have been horrified and I think I would have called the person who purchased them to let them know how I felt about the situation.

I feel very sad for you that such a generous gift has been unappreciated.