Would this annoy you?

londonsurrey

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

I'm of the opinion that once you give a gift you no longer have any right over what happens to it and I think it's very strange that so many people think they deserve a say in what happens to it after it's been handed over - not in the spirit of giving as far as I'm concerned.

If someone came up to me, asking for £2 because they were stuck and needed a bus fare, I would feel conned to see them spend it on alcohol instead.

scooby088

£80 on tickets for a godchild, think i'd have been out in the sun too long to even think about paying that for myself let alone anyone else. Next year I suggest an all expenses paid trip to new york

aliasojo

NewKittenHelp wrote: »

.... I think it's very strange that so many people think they deserve a say in what happens to it after it's been handed over .....

I think it's a bit off how many are saying the girl's action was shocking, rude, selfish, manipulating etc etc.

You all make her sound like evil personified.

I think the worst she's guilty of is maybe not thinking it through properly. But then she's still only a teenager. Old enough to have manners but young enough to not always make the best call in life.

Welshwoofs

I'd be rather hurt if the girl had specifically gone out of her way to say she'd love to see a show but couldn't afford it (which is bound to gain a sympathetic response), thus prompting you to offer to buy tickets which probably cost a !!!!!! load more than you'd normally spend. To then turn round and sell something that she'd jumped up and down about specially wanting is just rude. The polite thing to do would have been to phone you up and say "I'm really sorry because I know you went out of your way to get me these tickets, but I'm afraid I can't go now. Would you like them back because I know they must have cost you a lot of money"

catkins

No, I woundn't be annoyed, I'd be furious.

I think she sounds like a very spoilt ungrateful girl and I am amazed and saddened that her mother thought it was ok to do that.

She missed out on an amazing show which is ending at the end of August and rather than having the memories of a great show and evening out she has makeup and perfume which probably won't last long.

If I were you I would not be buying any more presents for her

londonsurrey

aliasojo wrote: »

I think it's a bit off how many are saying the girl's action was shocking, rude, selfish, manipulating etc etc.

You all make her sound like evil personified.

I think the worst she's guilty of is maybe not thinking it through properly. But then she's still only a teenager. Old enough to have manners but young enough to not always make the best call in life.

There's the mother to take into account too, and her attitude was that there was nothing amiss with her daughter's behaviour.

peachyprice

aliasojo wrote: »

I think the worst she's guilty of is maybe not thinking it through properly. But then she's still only a teenager. Old enough to have manners but young enough to not always make the best call in life.

I doubt it has anything to do with her age, far more to do with her upbringing. Her mother doesn't see it as a problem either that says it all really.

NewKittenHelp

londonsurrey wrote: »

If someone came up to me, asking for £2 because they were stuck and needed a bus fare, I would feel conned to see them spend it on alcohol instead.

Really? Because I wouldn't be thinking of how I felt, I'd be thinking of how horrible a position that person was in but then I don't give to receive or to make myself feel better.

catkins

aliasojo wrote: »

I think it's a bit off how many are saying the girl's action was shocking, rude, selfish, manipulating etc etc.

You all make her sound like evil personified.

I think the worst she's guilty of is maybe not thinking it through properly. But then she's still only a teenager. Old enough to have manners but young enough to not always make the best call in life.

What about her mother saying it is ok and going along with her doing it? I guess that is where the daughter gets her selfishness from

Cherry_Bomb

londonsurrey wrote: »

The goddaughter owed her godmother the courtesy of telling her that she'd changed her mind.

The godmother would then have had the option of telling her to keep the money.
It's a question of simple manners.

Which would lead to the awkward conversation. She would have either had to ask for the money back (you don't want what I originally bought for you so I want a refund) which imo is worse than what the goddaughter has done in the first place or she would have have felt begrudged into telling her to keep the money which brings us back to to the bad feeling.

daisiegg wrote: »

Well, yes, actually! It's not like it's something unpleasant or taxing...free tickets to see a fantastic show, that she specifically asked for! If she changed her mind (why would she?) then she should still have gone, probably would still have enjoyed it, and it would have taught her to be more careful about what presents she asks for in future.

Erm because she did?