friend living with us - all gone sour!

cord123

The only thing that worries us is that if he does smash our windows... which my husband said he wouldnt out past him - is that even with the text he wouldnt get done... without proof they would arrest him but prob never charge.

I wouldnt get another lodger - this was purely to help him out and was just lucky for us that we could use his money to go on debt rather than everyday bills...


I just dont want to get into a t*t for tat thing - if someone says he has said this I will correct them if it is lies, but I am not going to gossip about it. At the end of the day, my take on the situation now is that he has chosen this girl over his friends and I just hope he doesnt live to regret it. Stupidly, probably, I do feel sorry for him... part of me hopes/thinks he may think he has gone to far but is too proud to say sorry and just bulldozing along! Who knows......


Atleast I can make my naked runs to the laundry pile once more.... :-0

FatVonD

If you feel you absolutely must refund his money give him a series of post-dated cheques with cheque card number on the back.

I think it's a blessing your other friends will be there so they can see with their own eyes what's going on.

If he kicks off just keep repeating 'this is a family house, we told you when you moved that we didn't want you having women to stay overnight around our children'.

skintchick

He's bluffing. Ignore him. Tell him you'll put his stuff outside for him. If he kicks off when he fetches it just call the police and do not open the door to him. He will then have form so if your windows are broken the police will know where to go, and if he wants his money he will have to sue you.

Don't be intimidated by this idiot but do use the £300 to change your locks.

Mojisola

skintchick wrote: »

change your locks.

I hope you have already done this.

Mara69

If your debt is such that you need a lodger, would it not have made more sense to move to a three bed house?

aliasojo

skintchick wrote: »

... change your locks.

Very good idea.

He could easily have got a copy made and if he's the type to threaten putting in windows, it's not beyond the realms of possibility that he would consider doing other things too.

I certainly wouldn't be happy just assuming he'll give back his only key.

aliasojo

Mara69 wrote: »

If your debt is such that you need a lodger, would it not have made more sense to move to a three bed house?

Would it be silly to point out the topic of the thread is this chap and his behaviour?

joannaspanner

have you changed your locks yet??????

Mojisola

Mara69 wrote: »

If your debt is such that you need a lodger, would it not have made more sense to move to a three bed house?

aliasojo wrote: »

Would it be silly to point out the topic of the thread is this chap and his behaviour?

Especially as cord has already said -

cord123 wrote: »

I wouldnt get another lodger - this was purely to help him out and was just lucky for us that we could use his money to go on debt rather than everyday bills...

The debt was manageable without the lodger - his payments were just a nice extra.

gunsandbanjos

Wow, he sounds delightful! Good luck with whatever you do, frankly I'd be tempted to tell him to sod off, but then I have no problem calling bullies bluffs.