Boyfriend/husband and lap dancing clubs..???

Skintski

I wouldn't be happy if my other half wanted to visit a strip bar and I wouldn't get involved of anything of that nature either, no double standards on this one.

Lancslass1982

nearlyrich wrote: »

I think, and it's just my opinion, that from his point of view you saw a naked man and he saw a naked woman, no wonder he can't see why you are so mad;)

Hmmm, except naked man didn't come near me and I definitely didn't let him take me somewhere private and give me a lap dance!

dragonette

thatgirlsam wrote: »

:eek: Really?

He is unusual.

No, my OH is the same. He finds it boring. Needs to have a spark with the person, and would definately consider a private dance cheating. Thb, I think he would prob come home rather than go into the strip club to begin with, and I guess we're lucky his mates are very accepting of each other's choices so he wouldn't get any stick from them.

I loathe the idea of a stripper at a hen night too, each to their own (or, to each couple their own!)

Lancslass1982

I wouldn't want a stripper if it was my hen do and I would not have felt comfortable with one either. It was, however, the hens choice, so we went with it. To pay for a private lap dance was my bf's choice.

burnoutbabe

really wouldn't bother me, unless he started going every night. Its no different to watching !!!!!! though i suspect they are not allowed any happy ending in a strip club so just frustrating really.

Its very much double standards if you can watch a male stipper and play games with his willy and he is not allowed to do the same. Most men would think it amazing if they were allowed to throw um, rings onto large nipples.

though the bloke sounds like an !!!! anyway, so best to get shot - ignoring your 30th for a mates stag do? not even kissing you anymore? whats the point?

dragonette

Lancslass1982 wrote: »

I wouldn't want a stripper if it was my hen do and I would not have felt comfortable with one either. It was, however, the hens choice, so we went with it. To pay for a private lap dance was my bf's choice.

Sorry love, he sounds like a useless !!!!!!. You def don't sound compatible, not sure its worth trying to work through. Good luck whatever you decide

DUTR

geri1965 wrote: »

I know he doesn't.

98% of men do the other 2% are liars

sassyblue

Lancslass1982 wrote: »

^(under sassyblue) YES!! We aren't married, but do live together. But he does definitely behave like one of the lads, "bros before hoes" and all that. He really disappointed me earlier this year when he chose to attend a stag do this Sept (for quite a recent friend, who he really is not close with at all) on the weekend that my 30th birthday falls on. Had this been a good or long term friend, I would have totally understood, but he really is not and we are not even going to the wedding.:(

I can now see why you're so angry and l think it's time your boyfriend had some respect for you.

Bros before hoes? Who does he think he is? he sounds too immature to have a real lady on his arm.

Lancslass1982

Can I just say again, I did not throw rings onto any penises!! The hen was the only one who interacted with the stripper - the rest of us just watched. The whole strip club thing is not the issue, if they were all in a group watching the girls, that would have been fine. It's the private dance thing I'm not happy about.

BugglyB

FWIW, my boyfriend used to claim he didnt watch !!!!!! until I proved to him that I did. I think some guys just like to think they're the kind of guy who doesn't, heh.