Boyfriend/husband and lap dancing clubs..???

PrincessPlaty

VestanPance wrote: »

Her only option is stripping? What sort of example is she setting her child by stripping for cash?

Of course her only option isn't stripping, maybe she should go and stack shelves in tesco for minimum wage instead.

As I said just because you don't approve doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with it.

There is a massive industry revolving around sex and sexual attraction it is everywhere you look. Maybe you walk around with your eyes closed because you don't approve I don't know.

It is there and there is money to be made from it. It's not a career its a job, it brings in money and it pays bills.

Bitsy_Beans

VestanPance wrote: »

They've chosen that life purely for monetary gain. I don't respect that choice. I'd respect them if they used their brain, not their body.

In the same way I don't have respect for people that sign up for the military knowing they will be deployed to kill or work in the machine that will kill based on Government policy.

Personally I think it's a smart woman who uses her best assets (whatever they may be, beauty or brains) to earn a living.

I am also confused. Don't most people take a job for monetary gain?

As a separate issue find it laughable the idea that women in lap dancing clubs are exploited, if you ask me it's the other way round :rotfl: a friend of mine (single) frequents gentlemans clubs often and says he comes out feeling "loved up" :eek:

Skinto_7

As im a guy, most of you probably wont be interested however here goes...

Any girl worried about their man seeking intamacy in a lap dancing club need not worry, i would say 95% of guys who go are there for a laugh and a boys night out, and perhaps go a few times a year at most and not every week.

Granted with a private dance, you do have a naked bird writhing in front of you, however this is normally in a room divided by see thorugh curtains, where any chance of finding this vagualy erotic, would be blown out the water by the sight of your ugly pal's face sitting across the curtain!!!!

To the OP, your BF was honest enough to tell you about his night, IMO his honesty tells you far more about him than the fact he went to the lap dancing on a stag, if your relationship is dead, then thats a different story, but dont use the fact he had a lap dance be the excuse for it.

To anyone else worried about their man going to a lap dancing club, if your man wanted to cheat he would have more chance doing it in a normal pub or club, and would quite often see just about as much flesh on show so if him going for a drink with the boys doesnt bother you then neither should going to to the lap dancing on rare occasions, that is unless your man is one of the 5% sweaty, creepy older gents who sits in the corner with their mack on and goes every week and twice on the weekend.

System

mumoftwins wrote: »

I don't think they look at the faces:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

hahaha. :D:D

gingin_2

Lancslass1982 wrote: »

I did not throw rings onto any penises!!

I am sorry you are having a tough time but that has to be one of my favourite MSE lines. Ever. Especially if said in a Bill Clinton stylee.

I'm with the it's ok to go but no to a private dance stance.

Skinto_7

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Originally Posted by Lancslass1982
I did not throw rings onto any penises!!

gingin wrote: »

I am sorry you are having a tough time but that has to be one of my favourite MSE lines. Ever. Especially if said in a Bill Clinton stylee.

Haha maybe she just has a bad aim!!!:rotfl:

mumoftwins

"Any girl worried about their man seeking intamacy in a lap dancing club need not worry, i would say 95% of guys who go are there for a laugh and a boys night out, and perhaps go a few times a year at most and not every week."

Not the ones I saw! There certainly much hilarity just face of longing lust;) Most men were there alone, some standing in small groups at the bar, but many men were sitting alone with the women dancing erotically in front of them!! And it was a Saturday night so not a quiet night;)

thehappybutterfly

thatgirlsam wrote: »

:eek: Really?

He is unusual.

Nor does my hubby - it just doesn't float his boat. Thankfully. I'd be mortified if he needed !!!!!! to get it up.

PrincessPlaty

On a Saturday night it is very rare for single males to go into a strip/lap dancing club alone!
During the week yes it is more common, however even then there is still a lot of groups that come in. Men working away from home, business men here on business, I will never forget the farmers convention :rotfl:

In the time that I worked there, there was only ever one single male that came in on his own regularly. He was a bit odd would only ever talk to one girl in particular, always had a private dance with her, whenever any of the other girls tried to talk to him he would tell them to leave him alone turned out he had quite an obsession for the girl in question and as soon as it was picked up on he was asked to leave and not return.

The amount of blokes that go in and the girls try to talk to them and they say 'sorry love i'm not interested' far outweighs the number of men that do have dances!

A lot of men go there because it is quiet in comparison to other clubs and they get a bit of peace rather than being harassed me p!ssed up females pestering to buy them drinks all night!

PrincessPlaty

thehappybutterfly wrote:

Thankfully. I'd be mortified if he needed !!!!!! to get it up.

Its not about needing it to get it up....