Boyfriend/husband and lap dancing clubs..???

PrincessPlaty

VestanPance wrote: »

I'm male. I don't watch it. I know others that do and others that don't.

Like that study I'd be surprised if someone got to their 20's without having seen it, but like many things in life some will walk away from it never to return.

Do you even understand the point to that research you linked? How was it conducted? What was its aim? Printed press is an awful place for getting anything of note from academic research.

I said a couple of pages ago that debating with you was pointless and every time you reply to me you prove that even more.

I will leave you to mass debate on your own. Nobody watch!


Sorry - I'll get my coat! :rotfl:

VestanPance

Lotus-eater wrote: »

How do you know what to do if you've never watched or read about it?
.......Do you just magically know how to have a good sex life? I didn't, I'm 40 and I'm still learning, still getting new ideas, still keeping it interesting and new. :cool:

I no longer have a sex life, as I gave up on relationships a few years ago. Added with the fact I don't do the friends with benefits type thing, or one night stands. Not my scene at all.

With something like sex for instance I see no fun in watching some other bloke get his rocks off. I can see fun in me getting mine. I have a brain and an imagination. I may see or read something that gives me an idea. For instance in a few weeks time I'll be competing in an Ironman triathlon. I read about the event, but have no interest in reading about someone elses experience of completing one. I'd rather create my own.

VestanPance

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

I said a couple of pages ago that debating with you was pointless and every time you reply to me you prove that even more.

I will leave you to mass debate on your own. Nobody watch!


Sorry - I'll get my coat! :rotfl:

Well you can always return when you are intelligent enough to debate the topic at hand.

Lotus-eater

VestanPance wrote: »

I no longer have a sex life, as I gave up on relationships a few years ago. Added with the fact I don't do the friends with benefits type thing, or one night stands. Not my scene at all.

So what you're saying is that you have completely lost your sex drive.

With respect, maybe you're not the right type of person to be advising on sexual matters then.

And, again with respect, I would get yourself down to your doctors to be checked out. You might find yourself wanting to have a relationship again.

mumoftwins

"No because paid for private dances can not be seen by those that have not paid! "

These were not private dances and could be seen by everyone!!

balletshoes

duchy wrote: »

Do I want a bloke who thinks it's erotic or a turn on to watch a bored woman dance sexually for money ?

Honestly -who wants a bloke that limited ?

I don't think anyone here is talking about a bloke who gets private dances regularly instead of spending time with his OH - if its a regular occurrance then I'd agree thats a limited bloke.

But it was once wasn't it, in this case? So maybe he just wanted to see what it was like, once? That would be him expanding his life experience/views, not limiting them, yes?

Lotus-eater

Lotus-eater wrote: »

there's always going to be someone better looking than you.

Sorry, after reading it back, that sounds a bit personal, I didn't mean it like that.
I meant that no matter how good looking you are, there will always be someone better, just as, unless you are Stephen Hawking, there will always be someone who is more intelligent.

And I do know what I am talking about my OH is better looking than me, more intelligent that me and she had plenty of good looking intelligent men looking at her when we got together.
I guess I had that little something that tickled her fancy

VestanPance

Lotus-eater wrote: »

So what you're saying is that you have completely lost your sex drive.

With respect, maybe you're not the right type of person to be advising on sexual matters then.

And, again with respect, I would get yourself down to your doctors to be checked out. You might find yourself wanting to have a relationship again.

No I just chose not to enter another relationship. It's simple logic. I no longer trust anyone enough to have a relationship, so there is no logic in starting one. Once I decide to do something I commit to it.

I've never ever been interested in one night stands or anything of that sort. Contrary to all reports men are not controlled by their penis.

PrincessPlaty

VestanPance wrote: »

Well you can always return when you are intelligent enough to debate the topic at hand.

My intelligence is nothing to do with the fact that you can not take on board somebody else's opinion. Just because you think that is not the case it does not mean that everybody happens to agree with you.

You don't like !!!!!!, fine don't watch it, don't talk about it, don't tell anybody else that they are wrong.

You don't like strip clubs, don't go, don't talk about it, don't tell other people they are wrong for enjoying it or that the girls are wrong for doing it.

You don't like sex, don't talk about it, don't berate others opinions of it, and most certainly don't attempt to give others advice on it.

You like the benefits system, why don't you toddle off over to the benefits board im sure there are lots of people over there trying to get everything they can and more that would love your opinion.

raven83

Tropez wrote: »

Indeed. I'd never been to one before my partner decided to take me.

I've also been to lap dancing clubs before on more than one occassion, i've also been the one that suggested going but i guess i am just a bit of a freak :o