Boyfriend/husband and lap dancing clubs..???

PrincessPlaty

VestanPance wrote: »

At Stags yes, and they are awful places. I have no respect for anyone that strips for money, no matter how educated they are.

So how can you say

In fact I'd argue that you'll see far better looking women going about their their day to day lives than you'd ever see in one of those places.

Because surely you know and understand that the women who dance at strip/lap dancing clubs lead normal lives where they shop in the highstreet, nip to tesco's to do their food shopping, take their kids to the park etc therefore you point is invalid!

Why do you have no respect? Because you don't enjoy it? There are many people that do!

These women are making a good start in lives for themselves deposit for house, paying for education, starting their own business, saving for their futures. They are self sufficient women who believe in making something of themselves. They are not scrounging off the government claiming benefits are they?

They are doing nothing wrong, its not like they are walking the streets selling themselves. They are dancing in a controlled environment that is safe to make a life for themselves. I don't understand why you would have no respect for them....

thatgirlsam

VestanPance wrote: »

They've chosen that life purely for monetary gain. I don't respect that choice. I'd respect them if they used their brain, not their body.

In the same way I don't have respect for people that sign up for the military knowing they will be deployed to kill or work in the machine that will kill based on Government policy.

You don't respect the people that put their lives on the line so you can live in a free society? wow.

PrincessPlaty

VestanPance wrote: »

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In the same way I don't have respect for people that sign up for the military knowing they will be deployed to kill or work in the machine that will kill based on Government policy.

Seriously???? Gobsmacked.

Lotus-eater

VestanPance wrote: »

I'd say any guy doing that while in a relationship has issues.

You have a very closed mind, don't you?

It's not my thing and I don't see the attraction, but..... well we're all different.
I don't expect everyone to like what I do, but I don't judge them because they don't like it.

VestanPance

thatgirlsam wrote: »

That's your prerogitive.

What if a guy sees an attractive girl in the high street and imagines her naked? Would that be wrong too?

No, that would be fairly normal. The difference is he isn't sad enough to want to pay up to watch some girl strip for his cash.

Any guy that heads to these places is a very sad individual in my opinion. If they need to go seeking that rubbish out while in a relationship, then there is something very wrong with them.

VestanPance

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

So how can you say

These women are making a good start in lives for themselves deposit for house, paying for education, starting their own business, saving for their futures. They are self sufficient women who believe in making something of themselves. They are not scrounging off the government claiming benefits are they?

They are doing nothing wrong, its not like they are walking the streets selling themselves. They are dancing in a controlled environment that is safe to make a life for themselves. I don't understand why you would have no respect for them....

The lower themselves for money. At that point they've lost my respect. Morals and ethics mean far more than deposits etc.

PrincessPlaty

VestanPance wrote: »

No, that would be fairly normal. The difference is he isn't sad enough to want to pay up to watch some girl strip for his cash.

Really how do you know? How many blokes paid for !!!!!! videos/magazines before the internet? Next you will be telling me that you never have done.

Any guy that heads to these places is a very sad individual in my opinion. If they need to go seeking that rubbish out while in a relationship, then there is something very wrong with them.

And what exactly do you think they are seeking?

By the way its not just men that go to strip/ lap dancing clubs.

thatgirlsam

VestanPance wrote: »

No, that would be fairly normal. The difference is he isn't sad enough to want to pay up to watch some girl strip for his cash.

Any guy that heads to these places is a very sad individual in my opinion. If they need to go seeking that rubbish out while in a relationship, then there is something very wrong with them.

That's very judgemental.

Sad? I think it's sad that people don't accept that other people wish to lead different lives. And find different ways to fulfill a healthy sex life. Everyone's got a kink you know!

But I totally accept that others won't feel the same as me

PrincessPlaty

VestanPance wrote: »

The lower themselves for money. At that point they've lost my respect. Morals and ethics mean far more than deposits etc.

So the single mums that I know that are strippers, would you rather they claimed income support and child tax credit and stay at home during the day to look after the little ones?
Or would you rather they were at home during the day looking after their little ones and then going out to work at night when they are asleep to support herself and her family?

Morals and ethics you were saying?

VestanPance

thatgirlsam wrote: »

You don't respect the people that put their lives on the line so you can live in a free society? wow.

Yes, those people that based on government lies are dumb enough to sign up and be part of the deaths of hundreds of thousands of innocent Iraqi lives.