"He is dying..."

HeatherintheHills

Well done!

I really hope that shocks them into leaving you alone.

BitterAndTwisted

I suspect they know either that he's drawn up a will leaving them nothing so they fear they will have to foot the bill for the funeral or he's about to die intestate leaving them nothing but with GG inheriting the house or part of it. Something like that is the most likely answer to their harassment going on past form.

daska

GobbledyGook wrote: »

Thank you for all your help.

I have spoken to my solicitor this morning and letters are winging their way to him, his two sisters and the hospice stating that I have no contact with him, should not be listed anywhere as his NOK and that I have no wish to be contacted by any of them again. The first 3 letters also have a warning about harassing me and listing the dates and times of the 5 texts that I have sent to them stating every time that I do not wish to be contacted. It was suggested putting this in as it shows that I have kept them, there is a record and hopefully will make them take it seriously.

Hopefully that'll be an end to it.

Thanks again for all the advice and support. Gemma x

Just out of interest, what did the solicitor suggest would happen to the estate if he does die intestate? Can you reject it or does it get more complicated? On a superficial level some might consider it as some meagre level of compensation but I'm doubting that's how you feel.

GobbledyGook

If he died intestate then I'll be rejecting it. It'll then go to his sisters.

I actually hope he's intestate and hasn't pulled the same will stunt as his vile mother. She left small amounts to my daughters (she didn't know about my son) and me. I could reject my own portion, but not theirs. That's how the sneaky gits have managed to have this contact.

Gigglepig

If these people have been harassing you with up to 40 text messages a day, you are very kind to reject the inheritance so it goes to them.

If they really are that inconsiderate I'd consider claiming every penny and donating it to a charity (even if I did not feel comfortable about receiving it for myself).

spirit

Gobbledygook, I am 100% behind you too.

I had an abusive stepfather (and mother by default since she took his side always). commonly known now as a kiddyfiddler.

I ran away from home at aged 16 and had very little to do with them since. I hated it when once they came to my house (they only ever visited twice thank goddess) and was always looking over my shoulder.

Fast forward about 10 years and I get a call to say that he is dying in hospital and he wanted to see the family. I wished now I did as Gobbledygook and told them to take a long walk off a short plank.

My 2 sisters and me and my 2 kids came with me. Oh how I wanted to tell the nurses to stop his pain relief and let him feel 0000000.1% of the pain that he inflicted on me and to yell to the whole ward that that 'nice old gent' was in fact a child rapist.

He died shortly afterwards and i refused to go to the funeral. At least I had grown a backbone by then!

meritaten

they can say you are NOK to the hospital til they are blue in the face - unless YOU acknowledge it - you are NOT!
so do not have any contact with the hospital - and if they ring you, then just stick to your guns hun.
NO_ONE can force you to be NOK.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

^^^^ this.

And if anyone phones, writes or otherwise expects something of you, it's perfectly reasonable to say 'he's not my father'.

After all, drugs, drink and violence don't guarantee paternity. And who is going to pay for a DNA test at this point?

marisco_2

GobbledyGook wrote: »

Thank you for all your help.

I have spoken to my solicitor this morning and letters are winging their way to him, his two sisters and the hospice stating that I have no contact with him, should not be listed anywhere as his NOK and that I have no wish to be contacted by any of them again. The first 3 letters also have a warning about harassing me and listing the dates and times of the 5 texts that I have sent to them stating every time that I do not wish to be contacted. It was suggested putting this in as it shows that I have kept them, there is a record and hopefully will make them take it seriously.

Hopefully that'll be an end to it.

Thanks again for all the advice and support. Gemma x

I really do hope that they will back off and leave you alone. When I read that you had recieved 40 text from them in one day I was shocked and my first thought was that unwanted contact like that verges on harassement. Under these very delicate circumstances I think that applies even more so.

Your aunts and father shouldn't see it as their right to push you to do this. I am glad a solicitor sees it this way too. They would be very wise to take this letter seriously. If they are rude and arrogant enough to ignore it, which I fear they may be, then I would suggest getting your mobile provider to block their numbers or asking that your phone number is changed. I realise this is alot of hassle and inconvenience to yourself and all those who contact you regularly. However for some peace, quiet, dignity and respect it may be worth doing.

You know that by the way they are all handling this, exactly the type of reception you would get if you followed through with their wishes. You have 100% made the right decision to stay away from them all.

meritaten

what a poisonous lot! I don't blame you Gemma for not wanting your kids exposed to them! steer clear hun - and it may be an idea to change your phone number. Hassle yes, but not on the scale THEY are subjecting you to!