Am I being over sensitive ?

flyonthewall_2

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

Your post is not logical..

have to say I was a bit confused

emsywoo123

emsywoo123 wrote: »

OP I did ask how old your son was for a reason :A

If he is an adult, which I assume him to be, perhaps he would be kind enough to "have a bit of a shuffle round" for one night just to keep the status quo for the younger ones?

I know you say "your son-his room" etc but for that one night is it not the other ones' room?

OP I know this thread is moving fast so I quoted my post again

pimento

The previous quote was missing.

Originally Posted by lostinrates
Maybe thats how her oh, whose home it also is, feels? If so and this attitude is taken one could not blame him for feeling the same.


I am not parent, and i can see how twnse it all is, but while the ex may have been very unfair over two years i cannot i agine being left with two new borns and two others and feeling terribly 'fair'.

This is why the OP is really being slated. Not because she wants to change the arrangements but because she had the temerity to run off with a sainted mother's husband.

themull1

My partner doesnt have his son stay over ever, he sees him for the day on a weekend. Its not a necessity that kids have to stay over - i would hate four kids staying with me even for one day a month...! Each to their own.

themull1

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

This is why 2 year olds have so many tantrums because they don't understand the world, it's down to us to explain everything and keep their routine firm, when kids don't have routine they can't cope..
Their communication skills are limited..

Anyone ever noticed how their kids play up in the holidays, this is why, the change and lack of routine...

imagine these 2 year old separated it would be really hard on them as they are used to their siblings all together in your home, if not there they won't cope...

Kids can cope with a change in routine, they just adapt.

flyonthewall_2

pimento wrote: »

The previous quote was missing.

This is why the OP is really being slated. Not because she wants to change the arrangements but because she had the temerity to run off with a sainted mother's husband.

Ah makes sense now, no I didn't run off with him, they split we met

flyonthewall_2

themull1 wrote: »

My partner doesnt have his son stay over ever, he sees him for the day on a weekend. Its not a necessity that kids have to stay over - i would hate four kids staying with me even for one day a month...! Each to their own.

I love a full house lol xx

pimento

You don't have to explain yourself OP.

flyonthewall_2

themull1 wrote: »

Kids can cope with a change in routine, they just adapt.

Mull1 I can't find the quote u quoted here but I agree kids do adapt.

And as to the quote u quoted about the 2 year olds we have them seperately too

Ellejmorgan

themull1 wrote: »

Kids can cope with a change in routine, they just adapt.

The kids shouldn't have to adapt, the op already has said she has had to tell Dad to see them..

I get the impression op is more bothered than the father, op if this is the case then you shouldn't be...

As you've had them on their own before that's different, you haven't said this until now...

She may well stop contact if she's that way inclined it costs a fortune to get to court..