Am I being over sensitive ?

flyonthewall_2

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Yes I think the Dad should be buying the extra stuff that they need

And I do think that the OP needs to accomodate the extra children

Is your ex with anyone else now? How would you feel if his partner said your kids couldn't stay over because of her own children?

I think I'd be pretty miffed if it was me. I would be expecting my ex to step up and not have his own children excluded

hmmm my ex is not allowed to come anywhere near me or my kids. Legally and simple.

Person_one

flyonthewall wrote: »

She left him

Even so, it clearly wasn't Plan A. She's not got it easy.

flyonthewall_2

carolan78 wrote: »

In all honesty OP in your situation I dont think I would have asked my parnter not to have his children over when he only has them sleep one night a month. I would however be peeved if his ex chopped and changed all over the place to suit herself.

Maybe work out something like you and partner on the sofas for one night so your son has his room or maybe even let the 2 little ones go to sleep on the sofa so son has his room until you go to bed then the little ones can go up to his room and him downstairs.

I would regardless of how you resolve it this weekend be speaking to your partner about his ex's sloppy behaviour and ask him to have a word with her and point out it is no good for his children. Maybe he can suggest having them sleep over more often again rather than having them Saturdays for them to return home. She would have more opportunity to have a social life of her own if the children were at yours every other Saturday over night.

I really can not understand why Mums deny the father decent access when there is no concern for the children's welfare

i couldnt agree more and prior to my son coming home I have suggested this many times before ( sleeping more that is ) , I adore his kids btw but oh always seems to change the subject, tbh I have never really understood this but they are his kids

lostinrates

flyonthewall wrote: »

She left him

This is no better imo. Your partner was left when his tiny children were new born and only gets to have them stay one night amonth and this cannot be prioritised by the household?

Errata

flyonthewall wrote: »

She left him

I would have thought that would be all the more reason for your OH to want to see his kids - all of them, altogether - as often as he possibly could. He has five children and a stepson,shouldn't he be stepping up to the plate and doing everything possible to made sure all the kids felt like part of the same family.

Ellejmorgan

Op could you answer my question please..

Would you be prepared to go to court if contact is ever stopped ??

pimento

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

I'm glad someone said it..:)

Ah, so we finally cut to the chase.

flyonthewall_2

lostinrates wrote: »

This is no better imo. Your partner was left when his tiny children were new born and only gets to have them stay one night amonth and this cannot be prioritised by the household?

prior to my son coming home I have tried to encourage him to have them more, for some unknown reason, he dosnt seem to want this, but as i said they are his kids

Ellejmorgan

pimento wrote: »

Ah, so we finally cut to the chase.

Your post is not logical..

flyonthewall_2

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

Op could you answer my question please..

Would you be prepared to go to court if contact is ever stopped ??

Sorry Ellejmorgan didn't realise u had asked this.

Answer would be that I hope it would not come to this in fact can't see why it would, but if this happened I would support him.