Am I being over sensitive ?

Ellejmorgan

flyonthewall wrote: »

Sadly didn't think of this, might be an idea for the future just not a penny to rub together at the moment

I got a gorgeous travel cot on Ebay for £2.20..:)

Why is this you arguing the toss, I think hubby should put his foot down..

Has it even occured to you hubby might want to see all his kids, there is more to this, perhaps you can't cope with him having so many kids with another woman...

Either way if the mother hasn't kept to a strict routine then that's all the more reason for you to...

I don't buy into this wicked stepmother thing, no one said that and i've been in your situation, have been a stepmother twice in two marraiges..
In fact my husbands ex wife babysat out daughter while I had our 2nd child...

thatgirlsam

shellsuit wrote: »

flyonthewall, I'm with you all the way.

If that means I'm shot down in flames, so be it.

You have been welcoming and accomodating to the children and just this ONCE you want your son to have his room and bed and you're being jumped all over?

MY children come before anyone elses, ALWAYS. Always have and always will!

2 years old won't know the difference of whether they stay at home or at yours, or if they do at that precise moment, it's not going to have a long lasting effect on them, so don't worry!

I would be peeved too, that your OH would think if his ex's cirsumstances before your own.

I don't know why everyone is against what you have suggested, as I think you have been really fair?!

Shell, you know I love you but thank goodness you don't have any step kids!!

Sambucus_Nigra

Errata wrote: »

You just don't get it, do you.

No I don't think you get it. The OP has to deal with 4 kids coming into the house, and yet when she wants to do something good for her kid - the only thing the OP's OH is worried about is his ex.

Not his kids, not her kids, not her - but his ex.

thatgirlsam

flyonthewall wrote: »

Person_one wrote: »

Less than a fiver from Tesco!



Thanks but seriously not a penny to rub together , have exactly 27p in my purse lol, and another hungry mouth to feed with the addition of my son.

Ask your OH to buy them!

Person_one

flyonthewall wrote: »

Person_one wrote: »

Less than a fiver from Tesco!



Thanks but seriously not a penny to rub together , have exactly 27p in my purse lol, and another hungry mouth to feed with the addition of my son.

Seriously? You aren't going to be able to give him much with that 27p!

Person_one

pimento wrote: »

I'm with the OP. My biological child would always come before any stepchildren.

I would advise you not to have relationships with people who have children, in that case.

thatgirlsam

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

No I don't think you get it. The OP has to deal with 4 kids coming into the house, and yet when she wants to do something good for her kid - the only thing the OP's OH is worried about is his ex.

Not his kids, not her kids, not her - but his ex.

Nah, I don't believe that. Although it seems it was him worrying about his ex, I would bet that it what his ex might do about him seeing the kids that is at the root of it

flyonthewall_2

carolan78 wrote: »

You don't have to reply OP but have a long think about why this has really got you so worked up. I really do think you have issues with how certain things regarding your partners children are dealt with and if you ignore them and don't speak to your partner about them eventually your relationship with him will suffer.

Yes I have always had issues with how she changes the plans for the kids at a drop of a hat, no matter who gets hurt kids or my oh and no matter what we have planned for them and around them, which if i'm honest is why i thought that just this once it would be ok for us to change things slightly

pimento

Person_one wrote: »

I would advise you not to have relationships with people who have children, in that case.

Don't worry. I like children but I couldn't eat a whole one.

Person_one

shellsuit wrote: »

You have been welcoming and accomodating to the children and just this ONCE you want your son to have his room and bed and you're being jumped all over?

Um, he can have that bed on the 29 or 30 other nights of every month...

If the son's a decent nice young lad I bet he wouldn't mind all that much.