Am I being over sensitive ?

Person_one

flyonthewall wrote: »

Yes I am reading and guess what I can see. A thread with a lot of mums who are obviously annoyed at me cos I asked for a bit of support once in 2 years how dare I, what do I count I am only a stepmum.

Be careful about your assumptions.

flyonthewall_2

emsywoo123 wrote: »

OP how old is your son?

My son's age is irrelevant, its his home, his room and his bed, he has had to come home as he has nowhere else to go right now. He came home with short notice and I would not see him on the street.

I have told him that once a month we will be needing his room and he has more than happily agreed to this a month from now.

He is very shy and couldn't spend the evening in the frontroom with me and my oh as he is still not that used to my oh.

i am not going into too much personal details regarding my son as all has done is needed to come home and have support from me.

I just thought it was very un supportive of me as a mum to expect him on his 2nd night home to have to give up his room from 7pm onwards and no money to do anything else at the moment.

He just needed to be home.

thatgirlsam

flyonthewall wrote: »

Yes I am reading and guess what I can see. A thread with a lot of mums who are obviously annoyed at me cos I asked for a bit of support once in 2 years how dare I, what do I count I am only a stepmum.

Its obviously only maternal mothers that can mess with their childrens routine as and when they feel like it and upset the kids and their dad, well I applaud all you lovely responsible mothers out there that are selfish enough to think that u can do this to your kids just cos u are mum and the kids dads and us step mums are supposed to sit there and suck it up and support you in this.

But the one time I as a stepmum ask can I just be given a bit of support this one week ......... I become the step mum from hell.

eh? You asked for opinions, and you were given some

And don't presume that everyone who has answered is not a Step Mum! Or had a Step Mum

Asking for support is fine, trying to change plans for the next 24/48 hours is not ok. Maybe with a bit more notice then the ex would accomodate?

You sound a bit jealous of her if i'm honest!

Person_one

So, can you put the littlest ones on airbeds in your room so your son can have his room this month?

You can get toddler sized airbeds, its fun for them.

flyonthewall_2

I give up I was trying to be mum first and foremost to my son and still trying to do right by step children by only having the two oldest sleep over this month, I was trying to keep a happy balance

System

You asked for support, we gave you support.... Do the right thing.

Ok your husbands ex might be a pain in the !!!! where the kids are concerned but you dont have to be equally as awkward. Just get the little ones a travel cot or something and have them in with you.

thatgirlsam

flyonthewall wrote: »

My son's age is irrelevant, its his home, his room and his bed, he has had to come home as he has nowhere else to go right now. He came home with short notice and I would not see him on the street.

I have told him that once a month we will be needing his room and he has more than happily agreed to this a month from now.

He is very shy and couldn't spend the evening in the frontroom with me and my oh as he is still not that used to my oh.

i am not going into too much personal details regarding my son as all has done is needed to come home and have support from me.

I just thought it was very un supportive of me as a mum to expect him on his 2nd night home to have to give up his room from 7pm onwards and no money to do anything else at the moment.

He just needed to be home.

Could you maybe chuck him a few quid so he could go out and do something?

Seems strange that he couldn't spend an evening with your OH..

flyonthewall_2

Person_one wrote: »

So, can you put the littlest ones on airbeds in your room so your son can have his room this month?

You can get toddler sized airbeds, its fun for them.

Sadly didn't think of this, might be an idea for the future just not a penny to rub together at the moment

peachyprice

You chose to start a relationship with a man who had two newborn babies and two other children, they come as a package.

The two year olds are not old enough to understand and accept why they can't stay at daddies when their other siblings are, your son is presumably (don't know for sure cos you won't answer that question) is old enough to understand that once a month those little children need to stay.

Bennifred

flyonthewall wrote: »

My son's age is irrelevant, its his home, his room and his bed, he has had to come home as he has nowhere else to go right now. He came home with short notice and I would not see him on the street.

I have told him that once a month we will be needing his room and he has more than happily agreed to this a month from now.

He is very shy and couldn't spend the evening in the frontroom with me and my oh as he is still not that used to my oh.

i am not going into too much personal details regarding my son as all has done is needed to come home and have support from me.

I just thought it was very un supportive of me as a mum to expect him on his 2nd night home to have to give up his room from 7pm onwards and no money to do anything else at the moment.

He just needed to be home.

I think that is absolutely fine, and you are obviously a very supportive mother.

Why not put the littlies in your room (as it is just for one night) and you and OH camp in the living room? That way your son isn't put out.