Am I being over sensitive ?

Sambucus_Nigra

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

I asked first...

No you didn't. See post 94. #childish

You can't answer because no damage would be done. But don't let that stop you from trying to belittle the OP, eh?

mumps

Ellejmorgan wrote: »

Of course tribal people don't have to worry about routine, they don't have to be at work at 9am, get the kids to school, or have any form of routine at all..the kids aren't in school, they don't have anywhere near the same type of life as us.
In our culture we run by the clock, if we are late we get the sack, if we miss an appointment with the docs we eventually get taken off the list..

Your argument is very weak and feeble and not relevant to whats being discussed...

You couldn't be more wrong. The family I stayed with had children who went to school, started at 8 am, dad was a graduate engineer who worked in the local town. I don't know what their arrangements were with doctors as it never came up while I was there. The women were very traditional but loved their soap operas, can't tell you if they were any good as my languages aren't that good. They managed to work, look after children and basically do what we do without seeming to value routine for children.

I actually think it is relevant, lots of people are making a big deal about the vital importance of routine in bringing up children and many, many children round the world grow up happy and healthy without bedtime, set meal times etc. To be honest they were lovely children and the experience influenced me in bringing up my children. I have always worked, brought up four children, three graduates and one still at uni and never had set bed times, frequently stayed over at granny's house and with aunts, cousins frequently stayed with us. Dinner time? Varied according to what time I got home and what we were eating. Guess what, they are all fine. Agree with Sambucus Nigra, what harm do you think it will do these children to spend the night with their own mother?

shellsuit

flyonthewall wrote: »

Thanks for asking Yes it did, and yes he did and we made alternative arrangements to make up for things

So the kids didn't need counselling because they were so distraught and the ex didn't take you and your OH to court for abandoning the children overnight?



Glad it all worked out in the end x