Am I being over sensitive ?

flyonthewall_2

the_becoming wrote: »

No its not fair. And its not fair for the children that they cant live with their Mum AND Dad through no fault of their own. Life isn't fair.

Difference is you are a grown up and chose to be in this situation.

I totally understand why you are aggrieved but I think for everyone's sake you have to grit your teeth and bear it. One night a month to stay over is not a big ask in anyone's book!

Sorry its obviously not what you want to hear

No I chose to be in a situation that is a partnership and give and take.

Not in a relationship where a pwc ( mum ) can change her kids ROUTINE as and when she see's fit and upset her kids but the one time I ask for a bit of support I get none, I have never changed their ROUTINE once but she does it when she feels like it.

Going on what a lot of you say here, that makes her very selfish of her own childrens needs and routines ! and yet for me just wanting to do this once I am getting shot down in flames

System

Not in a relationship where a pwc ( mum ) can change her kids ROUTINE as and when she see's fit and upset her kids but the one time I ask for a bit of support I get none, I have never changed their ROUTINE once but she does it when she feels like it.

Two wrongs dont make a right. Be comforted in knowing you are doing the right thing.

the_becoming

flyonthewall wrote: »

No I chose to be in a situation that is a partnership and give and take.

Not in a relationship where a pwc ( mum ) can change her kids ROUTINE as and when she see's fit and upset her kids but the one time I ask for a bit of support I get none, I have never changed their ROUTINE once but she does it when she feels like it.

Going on what a lot of you say here, that makes her very selfish of her own childrens needs and routines ! and yet for me just wanting to do this once I am getting shot down in flames

To be fair we cant really comment on your husband's ex as she isn't posting here. You are and asked if you are being over-sensitive, to which most posters have replied yes.

If you feel that strongly, don't have the children to stay and see how much happier it makes you. Not to mention your husband, his children, the mother of his children. Seems like you would be causing an awful lot of trouble for the sake of your son giving up his room for ONE night in a month.

thatgirlsam

flyonthewall wrote: »

No I chose to be in a situation that is a partnership and give and take.

Not in a relationship where a pwc ( mum ) can change her kids ROUTINE as and when she see's fit and upset her kids but the one time I ask for a bit of support I get none, I have never changed their ROUTINE once but she does it when she feels like it.

Going on what a lot of you say here, that makes her very selfish of her own childrens needs and routines ! and yet for me just wanting to do this once I am getting shot down in flames

But you are making this situation about her, and it shouldn't be.

And yes, if that is what she does, then she's selfish. You don't want to be the same though do you?

CH27

Sorry if i've missed it but how old is your eldest & where does he normally live?

Errata

Presumably you've known all along that the PWC is a piece of work - isn't that why she and your OH are no longer together?
Cut the kids some slack, you get to see their dad every single night, they see him every once in a while.

flyonthewall_2

thatgirlsam wrote: »

That is a bit of a childish attitude, sorry

Why don't you and your OH focus on being the parents that are consistant for the children and let her get on with being however she wants to be. Because children grow up, and they do remember!

fwiw, I'm sure it's not easy for you, but you obviously think his ex's behaviour is out of order, so why would you want to be the same as her??

Oh not childish angry at the fact that ev1 seems to not give a hoot that the childrens mum changes their routine whenever she likes, and as I said all along I'm still having 2 of them !

I will say again this is the first time I have ever asked for a bit of a change and this is how I am treated like .

So come on someone tell me how comes it's ok for her to change the routines, why is no one flaming her for upsetting her children or their dad every time she does this.

thatgirlsam

flyonthewall wrote: »

Oh not childish angry at the fact that ev1 seems to not give a hoot that the childrens mum changes their routine whenever she likes, and as I said all along I'm still having 2 of them !

I will say again this is the first time I have ever asked for a bit of a change and this is how I am treated like .

So come on someone tell me how comes it's ok for her to change the routines, why is no one flaming her for upsetting her children or their dad every time she does this.

It's not ok for her to do that.

It's not ok for you to do that.

I don't know how else to say it

Person_one

flyonthewall wrote: »

Oh not childish angry at the fact that ev1 seems to not give a hoot that the childrens mum changes their routine whenever she likes, and as I said all along I'm still having 2 of them !

I will say again this is the first time I have ever asked for a bit of a change and this is how I am treated like .

So come on someone tell me how comes it's ok for her to change the routines, why is no one flaming her for upsetting her children or their dad every time she does this.

Are you actually reading any posts, because you're just repeating yourself when people have actually addressed what it is that you're saying.

flyonthewall_2

thatgirlsam wrote: »

But you are making this situation about her, and it shouldn't be.

And yes, if that is what she does, then she's selfish. You don't want to be the same though do you?

Well it wasn't originally about her, it just got that way with me when it seemed its one rule for her and another for me.