Sorry, just need a vent

meritaten

Its not mum or dad who needs to sort this out - Its YOU.

If my younger sis had done that I would have taken her by the scruff and washed her mouth out with soap! I am pretty laid back - but no way would anyone talk to me like that or punch me! especially NOT in front of my kids!

I dont think much of your parents allowing that to go on - but as I said its really between you and sis.

Way I see it your options are:
You do not visit your parents when sis is there and neither do your children.
or
You set your foul-mouthed, violent sister straight. and if she needs her mouth washed out and a dam good spanking - then that is what she would get!
or
You go over without the kids and explain calmly and quietly that she upset the children and please tell you what her problem is? It may be that she is suffering the torments of the damned and is taking it out on you as you are the only one she can do it to!

Up to you hun which option you choose - I expect others have put forward other options but I have only read the first page (ashamed to say, but bit short on time as supper is begging to be cooked and I wanted to reply).

edit - I had the feeling I was missing something so I went and read your OP again.
nener - get your sis away from the house and take her out for a drink - I have to wonder why a father would treat the daughter who is being assaulted that way - while not remonstrating with the one at fault.

Is your dad extremely protective towards your sis? is she over-indulged by your parents? does she have a LIFE? I may be entirely wrong - but she could be resentful towards you because she sees you happily settled (away from home) with your OH and girls - and bitterly resents it?

poppy10_2

neneromanova wrote: »

She's 19 in May.

neneromanova wrote: »

This has all been going on for 4 years, since she got with a 24 year old.

She got together with a 24 year old when she was only 14? I think your parents have more to answer for than just two bickering daughters.

scottishchick27

meritaten wrote: »

You set your foul-mouthed, violent sister straight. and if she needs her mouth washed out and a dam good spanking - then that is what she would get!

Are you being serious? Her sister is 19 not 9!!

neneromanova

meritaten wrote: »

Is your dad extremely protective towards your sis? is she over-indulged by your parents? does she have a LIFE? I may be entirely wrong - but she could be resentful towards you because she sees you happily settled (away from home) with your OH and girls - and bitterly resents it?

Yeah I'm pretty laid back as well. Never really let much get to me, Apart from when it's to do with my kids.

Dad doesn't do Parenting. He was put in Boarding school when he was younger so I guess never saw how his parents should have disaplined (?sp) him. So he doesn't do any disapline. But when sis broke up with her BF she went and slept with someone, and he turned out to have screwed her around, he went mad, went to see the guy and threatened him to never come near her again. He's never done anything like that before for me. Oh Well. Then Dad helped her to get back with the BF.

I Wouldn't say that she is over-indulged. As she can now drive and they live in the middle of no where then she's rarely ever home. Spends most of her time at work/college/BF's and just comes home for a shower, change of clothes and something to eat then is gone again.

I guess she doesn't have a life as her current partner doesn't allow her to go out with her friends to drink as he thinks she'll cheat. She see's me and my OH and we actually have respect for each other and a loving relationship so she could be jealous of that. That's not really any reason to take it out on my mum, brother and me though. She never takes it out on Dad funnily enough.

poppy10 wrote: »

She got together with a 24 year old when she was only 14? I think your parents have more to answer for than just two bickering daughters.

Oh Don't get me started on that. He has a thing about dating young girls. Apparently they never had sex til she was 16 but I don't really believe that. Mum saw it back then as if she tells her not to see him she will just go and do it anyway (reverse psychology and all that)