Sorry, just need a vent

Caroline73_2

If the OPs child swears having heard it from the aunt, surely it would be easier just to say "i know aunt says that word but its not nice so you mustn't say it" than mum attacking aunt?

VitaK

Think its safe to say that all parties acted inappropriatly. The real tragedy is that a child witnessed a violent act.

camNolliesMUMMY

Id of grabbed the cow bag too and would have dragged her out of the children's sight and gave her a gob full of home truths.

I'd too take pictures and send them to her and say this is what you've done if I don't receive an apology and you don't change your act I'm going to the police.

spurs_nut

Sounds like you are looking for sympathy and are jelouse if im honest.

neneromanova wrote: »

Things have been coming to a head lately with my sister. She has no respect for anyone, thinks her opinion is the only one that is right and thinks she's gods gift. Treats mums house like a hotel (what teenager doesn't i Suppose) She's 19 in May.

Since my DDs were born she always sworn at me in front of my Girls. Wasn't so bad when they were younger but now it is. Shes been told to stop swearing by me, my mum and dad. She takes no notice to anyone.

We always go to my parents house every saturday as OH has to work for my Dad and I take the kids as they live on a farm so the kids get fresh air and to see the animals and nanny.

Last night we were all sitting round having a nice takeaway meal and she starts as usual. Luckily my DD, who's nearly 4 was in her playroom watching a film. But you have to walk through the playroom to get from the kitchen to the livingroom to go upstairs. She starts getting huffy because my mum told her to get the dog inside from outside so mum ended up getting the dog in in the end to save arguements. She starts to storm off upstairs, slamming the playroom door shut. Mum comes in and says what's her problem and I mentioned what she had said.

Now big ears was standing by the door listening to what was being said, comes back in, effing and blinding that that's not true (everyone was there so had heard what she had said) Dad told her to calm down (he never gets involved in telling her off, leaving it all to mum) so I snapped, took off after her and told her not to swear infront of my DD's. (other DD was in bed at this time)

She started walking away so I grabbed her to turn her round and pointed my finger in her face to tell her off. (you get the picture) So she lashes out, punches me in the shoulder and cheek and tells me don't ever get in her f'ing face again. Dad decideds now is the time to intervene, grabs me, throwing be away from the situation, tells her to go to her room. I yell at him to don't ever manhandle me again (not the first time he's done this to me but I'm the only child he has done it to) And to tell her off as she's the one who punched me and is swearing non stop. He storms off and says he's going to sort it, but instead of going to tell her off, just goes outside to his workshop and doesn't come back in. My Poor DD1 Saw all this and was quite worried. She's all good now though

I left things 30minutes to see if dad would come back in then we left as it was getting late and we thought it was best. I didn't really want to leave as mum was in a state as she's had enough of fighting a losing battle with no help from dad at all.

My shoulder aches this morning and I've got a lovely bruise there. I haven't spoken to mum yet as she'll be out doing the animals but I just dunno what to say. I want to ring to check everythings ok but I really don't want to talk to dad.

I dunno why I'm saying all this really, just needed to vent I suppose.

Families huh, who'd have 'em.

CH27

You both need to grow up & learn how to communicate.
All that comes across is anger & resentment which is not a good situation for your children to be in.

neneromanova

Can I ask how it comes across as jealous and resentful? I really don't understand.

durham_girl

neneromanova wrote: »

Can I ask how it comes across as jealous and resentful? I really don't understand.

I don't think it does. I think it sounds like you reached the end of your tether after repeated bad behaviour from your sister and snapped.

I think you need to remove yourself from the situation. Is there any reason your OH can't go by himself, even if it's only for a couple of times so you get the message across?

neneromanova

Thats what we're doing now. OH is going alone and I'm staying at home.

Just spoke to mum. Apparently dads at the end of his tether and just wants to go away and never come back, sister hasn't said sorry to anyone or even realises what has happened after the blow up and brother is just being brother. Lol. Sister was even on the phone this morning to our uncle !!!!!ing about myself and my brother to him so learnt nothing from yesterday. Apparently my brother has no job, is on antidepressants and Is useless, and I just keep popping kids out and let my OH pay for everything etc. Electricity, food, even my clothes. OH thought that was halarious.

Her loss though. She's not coming to the wedding now, (can you imagine it all blowing up then too?!) And she won't see my DD's Again.

camNolliesMUMMY

I'd be the same if she doesn't apologise for her actions then I would not apologise for grabbing her but until that time keep your distance, personally she needs to learn respect as its your parents home so therefore should live by their rules and behave especially her language in front of the kids.
Wouldn't look good for her if she had violence on her file whilst trying to get in to the childcare industry now would it????

Poppy9

neneromanova wrote: »

Can I ask how it comes across as jealous and resentful? I really don't understand.

It's the whole situation and the comments you make and just the whole sibling arguing.

I think it's just posters looking at the whole situation and you can't see it ATM because you are angry.

You need to step back and see the "full picture". Ask yourself questions like:

• Why is my sister so angry
• Why does my sister seem intent on playing up and upsetting me when I am there

Then ask yourself

• Why do I care if she treats my parents house as a hotel - You don't live there, your parents are adults and they can deal with it.
• Why do I continue to visit if it upsets me and my children

Try and put yourself in your parents/sisters shoes. Your parents love you both and want you both to be happy. Your sister might be feel pushed aside by your children.

In no time at all you will be refereeing your own DD arguements!

Not saying you are a bad person at all, just normal and you are angry so not seeing whole situation clearly.