Poll - Did you have a good mother?

POPPYOSCAR

I am another one that voted No.

Great dad but awful mother.

I have accepted it but it still gets to my sister when she sees how her friends are with their mothers.

GhostDog_2

This thread has strangely brought me comfort..... I thought I was alone in having an evil mother.

Belittled and unprotected, a scapegoat for her own failings and frustrations.

She once told a neighbour (in front of my sister and I) that she'd wished her children were puppies..... so she could have sold us. :eek:

The previous post about a boyfriend not being accepted - until he became the ex-husband.... this happened to me too and felt like a stab in the heart.

We haven't spoken now for over 10yrs. I won't be at her's or my father's funeral.

However, on Mothering Sunday, I will look forward to a warm loving hug from my grown up son and his lovely partner - and they know I'm always here for them. :)

jaqui59

My Mum had absolutely no idea how much she damaged our relationship when she refused to get involved with my Children, her Grandchildren.

I didn't cry at her funeral, and I don't go and visit her grave.

Torry_Quine

I voted yes, despite poor health she was the best mother anyone could have known. Without her Mother's Day is always difficult.

It must be hard though to not have the positive experience I had.

loobylou232

My Mum is great and definitely did her best. She didn't always get things right but when she got things wrong, it was for the right reasons. I hope I do as well with my children. I have of course made a few adjustments to improve my parenting but for the time, yeah , she did well. Thanks Mum.

POPPYOSCAR

Hovel_lady wrote: »

I really hope that "any one of us" won't have the failings my mum had - knowing your husband is abusing your daughter and doing nothing.

She did not do the best job she could do.

Hovel lady so very sorry to read this.

I hope you have come through it ok.

indebtinsussex

yes, my mum was amazing, I was a pain in the bum as a teenager which I completely regret those lost years, but as an adult she has been absolutely amazing. throughout everything, rightly or wrongly she has always been there to support me.

Bangton

When I started reading this thread, I certainly wasn't expecting to see how awful some people's mothers have actually been. I feel so lucky to have been blessed with the mum I have.

She is generous, caring, strong and so very fun to be around. I can't begin to list the things she has done for me or explain how precious she is.

Given the choice she and my partner are the 2 people I most love being around.

My partner on the other hand hates his mother and hasn't seen her for years. She is vile, as is his father. The neglect he suffered as a child is so upsetting I find it hard to hear. I look forward to the day he can be the brilliant father I know he would be and you know what? It's one thing he can actually thank his parents for....a lesson in how not to treat your children.

Sid_Wolf

yes, my mum is amazing

Tygermoth

I chose yes and no.

My mother is petty, selfish, critical, jealous, shallow, self-absorbed, self-obsessed, secretive, vain, lies, steals, drinks to excess and perfect (as far as shes conserned)

However her mother was a 100 times worse so she does the best see can with the limitations she faces.

No mothers day loveydoveness here - but i do send her flowers because it makes her happy..... not because they are from me but she can act all smug to her mates.