Poll - Did you have a good mother?

FatVonD

I voted 'no' too. Mine is a selfish narcissist who talks to my dad (a kind, gentle, if enabling man) as if he's something she scraped off her shoe. She has never resisted an opportunity to put me (or anyone else for that matter) down.

j.e.j.

jellyhead wrote: »

Sad that 30% are saying no

I hope that even if my boys grow up thinking I was a rubbish mum that they will at least know how loved they are and that I'd do anything for them.

Yes, sounds like there are some mothers from hell amongst the people here! It's a shame but I've seen it happen.. Makes me thankful my own mother was not like that.

[ETA sorry that came out a bit wrong.. i meant some people here HAVE awful mothers, not ARE awful mothers:rotfl:]

I think as long as you've done your best and raised your kids to be decent human beings, then you've done your job as a parent

SmallL

I voted yes, my dad and mum both call weekly to make sure im ok, eating right , uni going fine etc.
However its going to be a tough mothers day like the last two, my OH's mum died of cancer just before both me and OH went to university, he is very raw about it and his mother was the only person apart from me he properly talked to.
Its been less than two years since she passed and it still feels like i expect her to be in her office at thier house when we visit OH's dad.

System

I dont know how to vote. Yes my Mother looked after me and met my material needs but always made me feel like i was not good enough.

loztredders

Kind of complicated relationship with my mum for me.
I guess she was a good mum when I was a young child, however she kicked me out of the house at eighteen, after my dad left her, she blamed me as my dad and I never really had a good relationship, and she thought he'd return if I left home, however him leaving was not my fault. He had met someone else. since this happened, my mother he's become totally self absorbed, needy and manipulative to a certain extent, playing my sister and I off against each other, and just being a general pain! I also find it hard not to harbour slight feelings of resentment at having to leave my home through no fault of my own during an already difficult time of my parents splitting up and then my lovely Nan dying of cancer a month later.
I choose the not good, not bad option.

kjmtidea

She wasn't terrible but she wasn't particularly great. I never remember her hugging me, apart from when my dad died when I was 18. Now she has a new husband and doesn't bother with me or my children anymore, even when I was in contact with her she wasn't overly bothered about seeing me or my kids.
Her loss. I will make damn sure that I have a much better relationship with my children.

thorsoak

puppypants wrote: »

I lost my Mum on 2nd March, so still very raw. She was a very gentle, dignified lady and will be much missed.

I'm so sorry - my thoughts are with you x

moneypuddle

My mum is a wonderful person - so kind and caring, loving and lovable. I'm pregnant at the minute and if I can be half as good a mum to my baby, as my mum continues to be for me, I'll be very happy

Four_leaf_clover_2

I have very happy memories of my childhood. My mum always did her best for me, she encouraged me to do well and took an interest in all I did. I learnt so much from her and she helped shape the person I am today. I never realised just how good a mum she was till I had children of my own, and it registered with me just how much I had put her through.

SailorSam

It's 5yrs now since my Mum died, i still love her and miss her everyday, but she could often be a pain in the bum.