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abacus73

OP you do realise that you are in a relationship with an emotionally abusive man? His actions cause you upset, distress, anxiety and humiliation. You are in an emotional state to the point where you are questioning everything going on in your relationship. Your partner has got you to the stage where you cant see clearly exactly what he is doing.

Even when caught out he doesn't face up to what he has done to you and take responsibility. Instead he retreats into his shell and deflects all his faults and failings onto you. None of this is being done accidently. He wants you to feel all that you are. Abuse always escalates. At the moment he is abusing your mind. One day he could turn violent. Get out of this while you can.

Birdy12

Lifeupsidedown wrote: »

You seem to be "oh so helpful" in your latest post

Thank you. I hope it goes a small way to helping you find a solution.

bright_side

Lifeupsidedown, please don't take this the wrong way, but I feel you have more important things to focus on right now than people on here who may/may not have accused you of being someone you are not x

wapow

OP

Chill out. The problem is at home. Not here. I also PM'd you like 3 times and it was pretty much the same as what I put in the thread. Its time you face the music in the real world. Rather than vent your frustrations online by nitpicking comments. People are here to help and advise. That doesnt mean theyre all going to cuddle you.

Youve had the advice you need.
Would be nice to know how you get on.

Im out.
Peace.

Money_maker

Lifeupsidedown wrote: »

I think you'll find I addressed your post too!! For example, instead of casting aspersions, you could have sent a PM or just ASKED the QUESTION, rather than coming out with all that negative c*** - why not wait until you knew who it was before being negative for NO reason?!

I think we all get the idea that you are upset/offended.

I haven't read the other thread but sounds reasonable that comparisons are made.

Please re-read your posts here, do they fit with your opinion of yourself when under your regular user name?

Lifeupsidedown

Money_maker wrote: »

I think we all get the idea that you are upset/offended.

I haven't read the other thread but sounds reasonable that comparisons are made.

Please re-read your posts here, do they fit with your opinion of yourself when under your regular user name?

Again, it was a "guilty before innocent" type of post. If the poster wanted to know, it would have been more appropriate for he/she to PM me, or just to ask the question. I posted for help, could do without any additional negativity. It's not reasonable - it would have been if I WAS the person, but I wasn't. This should have been established first.

Lifeupsidedown

Birdy12 wrote: »

Thank you. I hope it goes a small way to helping you find a solution.

That was sarcasm. Ah the beauty of cutting and pasting what you want to! You weren't much help at all, apart from making me feel bad for even asking for help. If you were trying to be helpful, you could have provided a link, couldn't you?! Or admit it would have been more appropriate in this situation not to jump the gun but establish some facts first.

Lifeupsidedown

wapow wrote: »

OP

Chill out. The problem is at home. Not here. I also PM'd you like 3 times and it was pretty much the same as what I put in the thread. Its time you face the music in the real world. Rather than vent your frustrations online by nitpicking comments. People are here to help and advise. That doesnt mean theyre all going to cuddle you.

Youve had the advice you need.
Would be nice to know how you get on.

Im out.
Peace.

Wapow I thanked your second last post, so I don't know why you felt the need to post again when I was responding to what Birdy said - who provoked you and seemed like the "good person" by imploring me not to have a go at you! I felt you cared and appreciated PM'ing you, so I was hurt when I logged on and saw "I felt sorry for this individual". Past tense. It made me feel like a time waster. Anyway, I accepted and thanked what you said in your second last post and I don't know why you felt the need to say "I'm out", I suppose it's this "Birdy" provoking you. Wish you could have never doubted me and known from my PMs to you that I was genuine - actively engaging in topics you mentioned and even telling you something about myself.

elvis86

!!!!!!?!:eek:

It's a shame that you're not able to muster as much emotion or be as confrontational when it comes to the man who is making a fool out of you by messing around with other women, rather than letting him walk all over you, buying his !!!!!! about "not getting off on it" and making excuses for him, because you're seemingly so desperate not to be single.

Sorry OP, but I just lost a fair bit of sympathy for you. You obviously have it in you to fight your own corner and stand up for yourself, so why the hell don't you apply that in your relationship rather than wasting your energy having a go at random people on a forum, who by virtue of them looking at and responding to your thread, are only trying to offer the advice you came her asking for?

Birdy12

OK, enough with the constant ranting and move on.

I asked whether your other user ID was Hazeyjewel, bearing in mind the similarities to your situation. You could quite easily have responded with 'no, but it's interesting that she's been in the same situation as me, perhaps you could provide me with a link to their thread?'. Instead, you've gone off on some hysterical rant about being compared to another MSE'r whom for all you know, might actually be a decent person.

Isn't it more important to concentrate about what's going on in your home life? Isn't that why you orignally posted?

And yes, I understand sarcasm very well .