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Lifeupsidedown

wapow wrote: »

I dont think they were attacking you or accusing you in anyway. They also put an apology at the end.

I think it threw them because there were two threads of the same situation thats all.

My comment is not aimed at you. Im stating how I would feel if you were infact someone else. Im pretty sure youre not though and even if it was you and you came back on the thread. If you owned up to it I would still advise. Try not to take this as an insult or offensive in anyway.

Could have PM'd me rather than winding other people up with such an accusation. You were extremely quick to jump on the bandwagon.

Lifeupsidedown

wapow wrote: »

I dont think they were attacking you or accusing you in anyway. They also put an apology at the end.

I think it threw them because there were two threads of the same situation thats all.

My comment is not aimed at you. Im stating how I would feel if you were infact someone else. Im pretty sure youre not though and even if it was you and you came back on the thread. If you owned up to it I would still advise. Try not to take this as an insult or offensive in anyway.

Or just ask the question? Are you this person? Instead of going on about the guilt trip stuff about lovely posters? Why was it necessary to include negative stuff and an apology? Why not just ask the question?

wapow

Lifeupsidedown wrote: »

Could have PM'd me rather than winding other people up with such an accusation. You were extremely quick to jump on the bandwagon.

There is no bandwagon!
You know how you state how you feel? Well ive just stated how i would feel if someone did that. Thats all! Im not saying or accusing you or anything

Look everyone has their own methods of writing and everyone picks up on it differently. I didnt think of it as a guilt trip but you obviously did.

Rest assured. Its been cleared up now. You say youre not that person. Im pretty sure some Mods will investigate anyway regardless because you are a new poster. So dont worry about it. Youve had plenty good advice on moral support so far. Im sure you will continue to do so.

You have a good idea of what questions you need to be asking yourself and what you need to be thinking of.

There is no point starting a fight on the thread. Especially in your state of mind. Take a break from the interwebs, or go on youtube or something. Refresh yourself. Then set a plan of action

Caroline73_2

Can I just say that women who 'sext' are not necessarily degrading themselves. When I was in a long distance relationship with my now husband I found it fun!

Sexting to a man in a relationship is different matter though. Do they know he's in a relationship?

bright_side

Run for the hills my dear!! You (and the rest of the population) are worth more than this, no matter how much we all doubt ourselves at times. A year out of a whole lifetime is NOTHING, don't waste anymore time on this one!! If he was prepared to get help MAYBE there would be some hope, but he's clearly not, so get out and be done with it, before he screws your head up even more.

Birdy12

OP, please don't have a go at wapow, it was me who asked the question about posting on the DFW board and comparing your situation to a previous poster.

Anyway, as I mentioned previously, lots of good advice was provided on Hazeyjewel's thread when she posted about her OH sexting. Have a look, you might gain some idea about what to do with your situation.

ruby-roo_2

OP is there anything in your relationship that makes you feel happy, contented and good about yourself and your life?

Being with the right person means giving and recieving love, friendship, respect and support. Having a partner who values you, shows an interest in you, backs you to the hilt and doesn't do anything on purpose that upsets or humiliates you. That is not to say that healthy relationships dont have there ups and downs. It would be unrealistic to expect things to go smoothly all the time, each person is an individual with their own ideas and opinions, and that is where compromise and open communication comes in.

I picked up on the anxiety and upset you are feeling from your post. Life is way to short, to be involved with someone, who makes their partner feel as bad as you appear to. You deserve to be treated so much better.

Lifeupsidedown

Birdy12 wrote: »

OP, please don't have a go at wapow, it was me who asked the question about posting on the DFW board and comparing your situation to a previous poster.

Anyway, as I mentioned previously, lots of good advice was provided on Hazeyjewel's thread when she posted about her OH sexting. Have a look, you might gain some idea about what to do with your situation.

I think you'll find I addressed your post too!! For example, instead of casting aspersions, you could have sent a PM or just ASKED the QUESTION, rather than coming out with all that negative c*** - why not wait until you knew who it was before being negative for NO reason?!

Lifeupsidedown

Caroline73 wrote: »

Can I just say that women who 'sext' are not necessarily degrading themselves. When I was in a long distance relationship with my now husband I found it fun!

Sexting to a man in a relationship is different matter though. Do they know he's in a relationship?

I agree - in the context of a relationship - but how would you feel about randoms texting your husband? I don't think they do, but the one he text the other day knows now - I text her. If I don't get somethng from him soon, I feel I'm going to implode or erupt or something - I could never be this callous towards another human being.

Lifeupsidedown

Birdy12 wrote: »

OP, please don't have a go at wapow, it was me who asked the question about posting on the DFW board and comparing your situation to a previous poster.

Anyway, as I mentioned previously, lots of good advice was provided on Hazeyjewel's thread when she posted about her OH sexting. Have a look, you might gain some idea about what to do with your situation.

Also - well done appearing to be sticking up for wapow! I actually told you to have a closer look at all the posts and explained why I posted twice. You seem to be "oh so helpful" in your latest post BUT you did not suggest I looked there for help in the first post - this wasn't your attention AT ALL. You simply accused me of something and then apologized. You were fighting a cause for all the lovely posters and now for wapow (who was emailing me privately and seemed to care, so it hurt a bit that someone i was speaking to was saying they'd be angry if I was a certain person). Neither of you should have assumed I was that person. Benefit of doubt? It's unacceptable to say what you said and apologize if you were wrong - how about not giving all the negative info. in the first place? Then there would be no need to apologize OR to upset someone?