Gutted

thehappybutterfly

How horrible you must feel. Nobody should be made to feel so crap about themselves especially by the one person who is supposed to be your life long partner. You can't live the rest of your life being made to feel like this. I'll not "say out loud" what I think you should do but, my god, you deserve better than that.

londonsurrey

Lifeupsidedown wrote: »

I agree - dignity would be good but I've invested so much in this and saw my life with him that I want him to feel hurt and humiliated, like I do. He's treated me like a fool and it really hurts! I don't think it's the right thing to do though.

Feeling hurt and humiliated is totally human. When you love, you expose yourself so much that quite frankly, it's so easy to be hurt. It's like taking your emotional clothes off for your lover, and when it goes wrong, you're left emotionally naked.

Just because it feels bad doesn't mean it's your fault. Hold your head up high. If you think about it, all you have to do is leave him to his own devices. If he goes on like this, he will create a hell and humiliation all of his own making, whilst you have gone on to create a new bright, clean, honest and dignified life.

Efficiency in revenge - no effort on your part!

Lifeupsidedown

elvis86 wrote: »

You're very quick to make excuses for him.

So in a roundabout way, what you're saying is that you are at fault for him showing you no affection and making you feel unloved and unappreciated, because you've made him feel guilty?

Does his decision to exchange explicit messages and pictures with other women have no bearing on the situation whatsoever..?:cool:

Wise up.

Fair point.

pearl123

Sex texting is cheating. He is telling someone else what he wants to do to them etc. He's saying he wants the other person and not the person he's with. He has emotional cheated on you.

What he's done is terribly mentally hurtful to you. And it appears you've caught him at it more than once. He's retreating into his shell because he's been caught ! You're only a year into your relationship!
I think you need to be wise !

wapow

elvis86 wrote: »

You're very quick to make excuses for him.

So in a roundabout way, what you're saying is that you are at fault for him showing you no affection and making you feel unloved and unappreciated, because you've made him feel guilty?

Wise up.

THIS^^

Read your other thread aswell.

Its normal to feel like the above after what you go through. Women are susceptible this way you are caring nurturing creatures. But you should not allow yourself to feel this.

Birdy12

Can I ask why you've posted exactly the same thread under the Debt Free Wannabe section too?

You're not Hazeyjewel under another name are? Your current situation and Hazeyjewel's previous situation bear striking similarities. I really hope you're not - Hazeyjewel received lots of advice from the lovely posters on here, ignored all of it, and then posted exactly the same problem about a month later.

My apologies, however, if you're not.

wapow

Birdy12 wrote: »

Can I ask why you've posted exactly the same thread under the Debt Free Wannabe section too?

You're not Hazeyjewel under another name are? Your current situation and Hazeyjewel's previous situation bear striking similarities. I really hope you're not - Hazeyjewel received lots of advice from the lovely posters on here, ignored all of it, and then posted exactly the same problem about a month later.

My apologies, however, if you're not.

wow if theyre same then i'll feel well crap! felt sorry for this individual!

Lifeupsidedown

Birdy12 wrote: »

Can I ask why you've posted exactly the same thread under the Debt Free Wannabe section too?

You're not Hazeyjewel under another name are? Your current situation and Hazeyjewel's previous situation bear striking similarities. I really hope you're not - Hazeyjewel received lots of advice from the lovely posters on here, ignored all of it, and then posted exactly the same problem about a month later.

My apologies, however, if you're not.

NO I CERTAINLY AM NOT and I am stunned you have the cheek to ask - why not PM me? "I hope you're not". Received advice from someone that I would be better off posting here, so I did. As you have paid enough attention to the "striking similarities", perhaps you could have looked a little closer and seen this suggestion. You mention all the lovely posters on here - I've engaged with ALL of them. Not the best time for someone to be kicking me when I'm done - but someone always has to be negative on these threads, don't they?! No matter how depressed or lonely someone is. Under MY other name, I have given lots of advice to people and may have been considered as a "lovely" poster. Why did you ask anyway? Chances of me being the same person (I haven't even seen these posts) are slim and if I was ignoring the advice, why would I have been actively engaging with people all day long? I would NEVER waste anyone's time. You've just upset me when I'm going through an awful time and made me feel I should never have posted!

Lifeupsidedown

wapow wrote: »

wow if theyre same then ill feel well !!!!!! felt sorry for this individual!

Really disappointed and hurt by this comment after you PM - ing me today!!!!!!

wapow

I dont think they were attacking you or accusing you in anyway. They also put an apology at the end.

I think it threw them because there were two threads of the same situation thats all.

My comment is not aimed at you. Im stating how I would feel if you were infact someone else. Im pretty sure youre not though and even if it was you and you came back on the thread. If you owned up to it I would still advise. Try not to take this as an insult or offensive in anyway.