I know I shouldn't be offended but...

ruby-roo_2

Spot on person_one, those are the qualities of people who enjoy successful, long lasting partnerships. I think the other hugely important element is open communication. Do talk to your other half OP and clear up all your worries over this ring and any other areas of your relationship that are bothering you.

His repsonses will give you a very clear indication of how much he loves and values you.

BMSrachael

He is practical and reliable, he does look after me when I'm sick, supports me when my chronically ill mother is in and out of hospital etc etc.... We've been together for 7 years.

I think the key thing here is that I know he's not even half as bad as some of the posts suggest... Aside from being a little lazy! We love each other, I'm not just "grateful".

I know he is embarrassed in a way about earning less than me, perhaps that's the source of his false bravado about the ring.

It's just a ring after all.

londonsurrey

BMSrachael wrote: »

No, I'm just saying, I know he does value me.

If you did all that for me, I'd value you too.

We're worried that your value may diminish if you stopped providing the money and doing the magical chore fairy thing, that's all.

kjmtidea

The cost of the ring wouldn't bother me, the fact that he has made a big song and dance about how expensive the ring is and him lying would bother me. A lot.

Also, I can't stand it when people spend a lot of money on someone else through their own choice and then constantly go on about how poor they are and how they can't afford anything afterwards.

Tiddlywinks

BMSrachael wrote: »

He does show it in words hugs love and kisses. Which is why I don't want to make a big deal of it.

He has still led you to believe something that isn't true - why? You need to get to the bottom of this before you begin your "happy ever after" as this might shine a light on how he really feels about certain things like the gap in earnings etc.

lostinrates

BMSrachael wrote: »

He is practical and reliable, he does look after me when I'm sick, supports me when my chronically ill mother is in and out of hospital etc etc.... We've been together for 7 years.

I think the key thing here is that I know he's not even half as bad as some of the posts suggest... Aside from being a little lazy! We love each other, I'm not just "grateful".

I know he is embarrassed in a way about earning less than me, perhaps that's the source of his false bravado about the ring.

It's just a ring after all.

You are right, all of this is more important than a ring. (or matching salries). Honesty and frankness between the two of you is not less important than those things though.

I reallynhope it is just bravado, but in that case he needs you to talk about it just as much as you need to know your faith is not misplaced. Fwiw, i couldn't care less about rings, and only got one after we were married, that is not the issue at all.

I hope you resolve it soon and well!

ali-t

OP, my nose is bothering me. Is it 9 or 18 carat gold?

gwhizz75

Is it possible that the receipt was for a "deposit" payment? Perhaps he ordered the ring and paid a percentage for a deposit, and then paid the rest when he picked it up?

Rings usually have to be ordered in advance so that they can get the right size in etc, so this could be a possibility.

pearl123

OP - in other area's like your Birthday or Xmas is he mean or very tight on what he get you?
Does he buy for himself but not for you at all? I ask this as I had a friend who's other half could not be bothered to get her a Birthday gift even when remindered, yet he could turn around and buy himself expensive shirts!

globetraveller

gwhizz75 wrote: »

Is it possible that the receipt was for a "deposit" payment? Perhaps he ordered the ring and paid a percentage for a deposit, and then paid the rest when he picked it up?

Rings usually have to be ordered in advance so that they can get the right size in etc, so this could be a possibility.

I think you might just have the answer:)