I know I shouldn't be offended but...

londonsurrey

I'll stick my neck out and hazard a guess that most of us here agree that

Cheap ring + all he can afford = FINE

Him lying = WARNING BELLS

Him lying + Cheap ring = WARNING BELLS

System

I'd be deeply offended if the ring my husband bought me and told me was 18 ct turned out to be 9ct.

Not because of the fact that the ring would be worth less but the fact he had to lie about it.

I dont like people who lie.

andthethreebears

If you want to query him over it - then say you're going to put the ring on your contents insurance, has he got a receipt or should you get it appraised?
Either way - you get an answer about the value, and he will need to explain why he felt the need to lie

ruby-roo_2

BMSrachael wrote: »

But I do so much for him, he literally never has to lift a finger, I pay for most things, I look after the house, cook all his meals as well as working full time and doing a part time degree and leading my own life.

This is what rings alarm bells for me. The relationship seems very unbalanced, with little agreement having been made to share responsibilities. The OP seems to have taken on all the day to day chores of running a home and life, whilst her other half sits back and lets her. Not a good start to a marriage. OP would you really be happy if the status quo you describe above, continues all through your life together?

I'd be far more concerned about adressing this than worrying over how much your engagement ring cost.

londonsurrey

BMSrachael wrote: »

not usually a "blagger" !

You discovered the truth behind this incident by accident.
It's possible that he isn't a blagger.
It's also possible that he's a really good one who gets away with it a lot(undiscovered) or simply going through what sounds like quite a busy fulfilling life with your happy capable sharing nature, you blissfully haven't noticed.

the_cat

OP - bear in mind that you are in the 'honeymoon phase' where he (and to be fair, you too!) will still be on best behaviour. In the years to come, he is likely to make less effort than he does now. Plus you are almost certain to be less willing to gloss over any faults than you are now, so the potential for resentment and relationship issues if this is not addressed will increase over time

Sambucus_Nigra

Any excuse for a little Henry

londonsurrey

ruby-roo wrote: »

This is what rings alarm bells for me. The relationship seems very unbalanced, with little agreement having been made to share responsibilities. The OP seems to have taken on all the day to day chores of running a home and life, whilst her other half sits back and lets her. Not a good start to a marriage. OP would you really be happy if the status quo you describe above, continues all through your life together?

I'd be far more concerned about adressing this than worrying over how much your engagement ring cost.

If the genders were reversed, I'd think that the girl was a real stunner, to have the man pay for most things as well as do most of the household chores.
Usually, if one earns the money, the other party at least does the SAHM bit.

Tiddlywinks

burnoutbabe wrote: »

Him lying to you about something isn't the right way to start an engagement.

This... he lied about something that is important enough to mean something to you.

Why lie? You say you wouldn't have minded an inexpensive ring so why the need to mislead you?

Emmzi wrote: »

Is it possible he bought another ring for someone else? sister, mum?

This is also possible... might be worth just asking what the receipt was for... maybe jokingly asking if he has another woman.

Anyway, the fact is that he very probably lied to you - not a great start to your new future together is it?

Valli

Thing is, his behaviour and attitude IMPLIED it was an expensive ring and he further lied to make it sound even better -

I was really disappointed with a gift I received from a boyfriend. It was a special birthday, all my family were here and he handed over two separately wrapped supermarket bouquets (two?) and (when no-one else was looking, so he may well have been embarrassed) a BROWN PAPER BAG that didn't even look like a new bag with a CD in it...

and the CD was unsealed

and I just couldn't get the idea out of my head that he had just handed over something he already owned. I mean, who sells CDs in brown paper bags?

Anyway, there were other 'issues' and he's history.

Just noticed - you're in YORKSHIRE - tighter than the Scots, them tykes
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