I know I shouldn't be offended but...

ruby-roo_2

I agree with you person_one. OP you may decide for or against to starting a family with this man in the future. Having done the whole raising kids bit, I would personally have huge reservations about doing this, with anyone who is as you describe your partner. His sit back and let her get on with it all approach to your relationship, doesn't bode well for him being a very involved, hands on parent to me.

missmontana

I agree with everyone else who has suggested needing the info for insurance, or getting it valued. If you don't do it now, its just going to eat away at you until you get an answer!

missmontana

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pearl123

There's alot of wisdom from everybody in this thread. It's made very good reading.

OP - where there is one lie could there be more?
Does your OH value you do you think? Does he show it? In words, love, hugs, kisses etc. Or do you feel taken for granted or a ride? You need to ask yourself - if he really does care enough for you?
Or is he just taking the easy-ist route by not getting of his butt and working to get you a good ring.

BMSrachael

He does show it in words hugs love and kisses. Which is why I don't want to make a big deal of it.

Mojisola

BMSrachael wrote: »

He does show it in words hugs love and kisses. Which is why I don't want to make a big deal of it.

So you do all the work and pay for everything and he dishes out hugs and kisses?

cazxx1

for god sake get a grip he loves you does it matter

lostinrates

BMSrachael wrote: »

And he's not usually a "blagger" !

how do you know? You would not have known it was a possibilty this time had you not found the receipt.

I would want to talk to him about it. And to ensure thecrelationship starts to take a more equal balance.

BMSrachael

No, I'm just saying, I know he does value me.

Person_one

BMSrachael wrote: »

He does show it in words hugs love and kisses. Which is why I don't want to make a big deal of it.

Hugs and kisses are great.

In a lifelong marriage though, you need him to show you he loves you in much more practical and reliable ways, like getting up with the new baby when your caesarian scar is painful, like working overtime and cutting back on luxuries when you get made redundant, like keeping the house running while you care for a poorly or elderly parent, even little things like doing a load of washing when he notices the basket is full without having to be asked or bringing you a hot water bottle if you've got awful cramps are the ways people show their love in the best and longest lasting relationships.