Is my OH stupid or am I mean ???

shirlgirl2004

Judi wrote: »

as long as my washer was in good working order i wouldnt have minded.

Same here. In fact if it had been me that won it I'd have done the same.

lostinrates

mishkanorman wrote: »

you obviously havent read back, but i'll reply again, It was a half time raffle with a whole range of donated prizes. HIS ticket won, no-one elses - if it had been a joint prize I wouldn't say a word !

Sorry, i get that quite a lot on mse, a lot of posts don't seem to load when i refresh..buut more recent ones do! Very odd, and annoying for those giving information.

19lottie82

WhiteHorse wrote: »

No ...

He didn't give her the prize to her out of the goodness of his heart ... he was posing.

And if he likes posing to some 16 year old slapper whilst you are pregnant ... you should watch him a bit more closely.

Man Hater Alert..........

BugglyB

OP, you do keep saying 'I'm just sad his first thought wasnt for his family'. Perhaps he feels by going out to work every day his first thought is always for his family. Is he inconsiderate in other ways too? Is this just the tip of the iceberg, or is he in other ways a good father and husband?

My very best friend once said to me (when I was having a moan about as yet unsolved row I'd had with oh and whether I was right or not) 'oh for gods sake BugglyB, do you still want to be with him? Well if you do you just have to go home, swallow your pride and make up'. In other words whats done is done, he absolutely can't take it back now. He knows how you feel so time to put it behind you.

on a side note I would never refer to my other half as 'stupid'

mishkanorman

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

Same here. In fact if it had been me that won it I'd have done the same.

Same here, if in fact I didnt have 'big' purchases looming and hadnt given away things we now need ( to people more needy than us) and had suitable alternatives to use.

Its the bigger picture im stuck on, the initial gesture was selfless on his part and very generous, he just isnt in the position to be making them !

He could have even checked with me to see if its a better model than the one we have so we could have the new one and they could have our old one !? Thats kind, thoughtful and still putting his family first.

mishkanorman

BugglyB wrote: »

OP, you do keep saying 'I'm just sad his first thought wasnt for his family'. Perhaps he feels by going out to work every day his first thought is always for his family. Is he inconsiderate in other ways too? Is this just the tip of the iceberg, or is he in other ways a good father and husband?

My very best friend once said to me (when I was having a moan about as yet unsolved row I'd had with oh and whether I was right or not) 'oh for gods sake BugglyB, do you still want to be with him? Well if you do you just have to go home, swallow your pride and make up'. In other words whats done is done, he absolutely can't take it back now. He knows how you feel so time to put it behind you. Its only been 3 hours, not as if I've dragged on a fight for the last few weeks about i t !

on a side note I would never refer to my other half as 'stupid'

Nor would I ever call myself 'mean' - it was to show the extreme opposites of opinion !

duchy

mishkanorman wrote: »

Thanks, it felt like a kick in the teeth when it happened so perhaps his gesture will pay off and at least grant us the good health of this bubba

Now that is the healthy way to look at it -New washer dryer (that eats electric) versus healthy baby-No contest

BugglyB

Ok, sorry for commenting, was hoping to help.

mishkanorman

BugglyB wrote: »

Ok, sorry for commenting, was hoping to help.

I know im just not in a reasonable mood to be listening It wont seem so bad tomorrow (i hope )

coolcait

mishkanorman wrote: »

I know im just not in a reasonable mood to be listening It wont seem so bad tomorrow (i hope )

The Ricky Gervais quote in your signature sums up your posts for me.

You might never call yourself 'mean'.

However, if you had taken possession of the washer-drier, and then tried to sell it to the other girl for 50 quid, or whatever, you would probably have been called 'mean' by other people.

Why be stupid enough to put yourself in that position?