Is my OH stupid or am I mean ???

mishkanorman

pelirocco wrote: »

I see you have fallen into the trap of only liking posts that agree with you;)

By falling out with your OH over something pretty trivial you are in danger of losing far more then a washer drier

actually you will see I thanked up to my first reply and no further, for no reason other than Ive not gone back through and thanked people,


rather petty of you to point it out really

mancitychick

pimento wrote: »

What a nice thing for him to do. Cut him some slack. You said yourself you don't need a washing machine and you'd get peanuts if you sold it.

My thoughts to.

EllaBeagle

WhiteHorse wrote: »

No ...

He didn't give her the prize to her out of the goodness of his heart ... he was posing.

And if he likes posing to some 16 year old slapper whilst you are pregnant ... you should watch him a bit more closely.

I had the same thought but didn´t want to say

dorisday

I too would have been fuming with him. i think its more of the case of he didnt consult you about it and I would have been really hurt. Wonder what he would have done if it had been a holiday!!!
But the damage is now done and I would have a chat with him about how hurt you feel about it - so he doesnt do it again.
And No you are not mean. wonder what others on here who think you are would have done if it happened to them when they needed to buy things and as you say even £50 would be a help.

Im fuming with him for you :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

aliasojo

mishkanorman wrote: »

rather petty of you to point it out really

Don't worry about it, this poster pointed out I start rather a lot of threads too.

He or she appears to be a bit opinionated about how we all use MSE. :rotfl:

mishkanorman

ognum wrote: »

I think he made a kind gesture, he was probably overtaken with the situation but you should be really happy that you have such a lovely man.

I think life is way to short to argue about this, we don't make perfect choices in life but at least his was kind.

Don't make a mountain out of this, if it is the biggest thing in your life to fret about then be grateful you have a good life and give him a hug.

Actually, last year was the worst of my life when I had to terminate a pregnancy due to abnormalities - I couldnt even begin to explain the heartache that I went through. ( I say I because of the physical trauma on top of the loss.)

Im still struggling and to be really childish why couldnt my 'lovely man' think that maybe I could do with the kind gesture - some good karma to balance off the bad we had ??

Its nothing & selfish of me to everyone here but Im so upset that his first thought wasnt for his own family

lostinrates

dorisday wrote: »

I too would have been fuming with him. i think its more of the case of he didnt consult you about it and I would have been really hurt. :

On the other hand it might have been a majority vote by the winning team? So noones oh got a choice. Depending how many in the team and how much they would have got for the thing on eBay had the decided to split it, the money might have been less than fifty quid and the hassle not inconsiderable!

Emmarillo

I'd be fuming too, but haven't you got a lovely man? Far far more important than a washer/drier

mandragora_2

My son and his girlfriend had a baby far, far too young (her 18, him 21). Shock, tears, trauma and then you think 'There's worse things than a baby', pick yourselves all up and make the best of it.

I will never, ever forget the kindness of a lady on freecycle who gave them a washer drier - we went to pick it up, they lived in a 'park home', so not wealthy themselves, and what they gave our son and his g/f was a fantastic machine, far better than anything I'd have been able to shell out for. At a low point in their lives, when his g/f especially felt that everyone was judging her as 'worthless' and a 'slapper' (certainly the 's' word has been used in the posts above), for this total stranger, not living in the lap of luxury, to give them such a generous gift was a point of brightness in quite a dark time and restored my faith in human nature.

Fast forward four years, they've done themselves proud, set up a lovely home, work hard to provide for the family and their 'baby' is now three years old, bright as a button, well fed, clean, secure and comfortable. I don't know how you'd measure it, but I'm sure that gift of the washer drier and that lady's generosity had some impact on how well they've both thrived as a couple and how well they are now parenting their child. You husband's gift (and I'd go with the 'he just did what seemed right at the time and didn't think it through in any depth' crowd) may have a much longer lasting impact than you will ever know, and be of far more value than the money it would have bought you on resale. Make him a cup of tea and take it upstairs now. As a parent of children yourself, one day you may find yourself in the same position I was in four years ago and remember this day. It would be nice if you look back on it with a feeling of something positive rather than something negative,, wouldn't it?

mishkanorman

lostinrates wrote: »

On the other hand it might have been a majority vote by the winning team? So noones oh got a choice. Depending how many in the team and how much they would have got for the thing on eBay had the decided to split it, the money might have been less than fifty quid and the hassle not inconsiderable!

you obviously havent read back, but i'll reply again, It was a half time raffle with a whole range of donated prizes. HIS ticket won, no-one elses - if it had been a joint prize I wouldn't say a word !