Is my OH stupid or am I mean ???

splishsplash

aliasojo wrote: »

You are all clearly so much nicer than me. :rotfl:

Nope, I'm with you. I'd be ripping mad - it's all very well giving the shirt off your back to a relative stranger, but not if it means your own are left shirtless. Charity begins at home and as the OP said, a simple solution would have been to sell it to her for £50 - win win for eveyone.

Speaking of wins - wouldn't your £210 cover a lot of the baby things?

Also, could you buy me a lottery ticket please :A?

lostinrates

mishkanorman wrote: »

Actually, last year was the worst of my life when I had to terminate a pregnancy due to abnormalities - I couldnt even begin to explain the heartache that I went through. ( I say I because of the physical trauma on top of the loss.)

Im still struggling and to be really childish why couldnt my 'lovely man' think that maybe I could do with the kind gesture - some good karma to balance off the bad we had ??

Its nothing & selfish of me to everyone here but Im so upset that his first thought wasnt for his own family

I am sorry you had to go through that.

Perhaps your husband IS creating some good karma, if that is your belief, and feels your family and you are worth more to him than the machine.

Honestly, i can see why you are upset, it stinks to have an almost won, but you know, you are expecting a joy, with a man who i guess you mainly love, and you won't have the elctricity costs of running the drying part of the machine

aliasojo

mishkanorman wrote: »

.....Im so upset that his first thought wasnt for his own family

And I think that is perfectly understandable.

But the thing is, what you do now? You've only really got two routes to go down, either you let it go (after very calmly telling him that what he did was a lovely gesture but you are upset that he didn't stop for a minute to think about how it might have got a pushchair for your own child and if there is ever a next time, could he please just have a good think first). Or you give him a hard time, fall out, have a bad atmostsphere and resentment between you.

It's a no brainer. Let it go and move on.

mishkanorman

splishsplash wrote: »

Nope, I'm with you. I'd be ripping mad - it's all very well giving the shirt off your back to a relative stranger, but not if it means your own are left shirtless. Charity begins at home and as the OP said, a simple solution would have been to sell it to her for £50 - win win for eveyone.

Speaking of wins - wouldn't your £210 cover a lot of the baby things?

Also, could you buy me a lottery ticket please :A?

It was pre pregnancy in the early part of last year - it all went on my credit card debt :money:

nanto3girls

Just_Plain_Jane wrote: »

Rightly or wrongly, I'd have been livid. It could've been sold and the money used to buy the things you need. It was a great gesture from him but where I come from, charity begins at home.

My sentiments exactly.

Saturnalia

WhiteHorse wrote: »

slapper

Lovely language to fling at a woman you know bog-all about.

Gloomendoom

I think he did good. :beer:

mishkanorman

aliasojo wrote: »

And I think that is perfectly understandable.

But the thing is, what you do now? You've only really got two routes to go down, either you let it go (after very calmly telling him that what he did was a lovely gesture but you are upset that he didn't stop for a minute to think about how it might have got a pushchair for your own child and if there is ever a next time, could he please just have a good think first). Or you give him a hard time, fall out, have a bad atmostsphere and resentment between you.

It's a no brainer. Let it go and move on.

Nope, not gonna - im gonna sit in my bed crying like a child before plotting my revenge :rotfl:

mishkanorman

Saturnalia wrote: »

Lovely language to fling at a woman you know bog-all about.

Thanks - I meant to go back and defend her,

Her and her partner are a well settled mature couple, I dont be-grudge them having what we can spare - i just differ on opinion on whats going spare !

sparrer

I have a feeling that, had it been the other way round, he would admire you for doing the something so kind.

Perhaps he thought you were adult enough to comprehend why he did what he did, seems he thought wrong. Instead of yelling you should go up and apologise. That would go halfway to proving you're the person he thinks you are.

Hope you get to kiss and make up before bed time