Is my OH stupid or am I mean ???

*max*

It just goes with internet forums really. People feel free to say things they wouldn't in a million years say to a complete stranger's face, short of being a complete psychopath and/or wishing to be punched in the nose.

The relative anonymity emboldens people, to the point where that feeling of freedom turns otherwise perfectly functioning members of society into raging, antagonistic, insulting lunatics at times. Scary eh!

Lexxi

I think you could try putting it in pespective a little.
They could both have almost won and when she said she really needed a washer he could have volunteered yours or your services! I had something like that with the work washing, then one of the staffs wife got drunk and told everyone that I was bad at it, even though she hated doing it too!!
We're always giving stuff away, kettles, clothes, pans, plates etc. We've been without so if we have extra/spare we don't mind too much if someones not got any but we don't have dependants

Sambucus_Nigra

mishkanorman wrote: »

And I have, to what end ? The post will be removed and the damage and upset is already done, with the offender free to move on to the next person they feel needs a harsh word from them !

I have no idea. What do you want me to say? You know what MSE is like, and if you post personal stuff it's highly likely that someone is going to insult you at some point. You have to ignore them and get on with it.

pinkladyof66

I am sorry but yes charity begins at home if that was my hubbie i would be livid. if he won it he should have consulted you (perhaps phoned you). I dont believe that most men dont think as I know my hubbie wouldnt do that for anyone. As the op says the money could have come in useful for their newborn whether it was £10 ir £100 yes you are right to be narked op.

meritaten

I am not going to apologise Mishka - but, I am going to explain the Martyr to your unborn child remark which I believe may have been misconstrued. I meant the baby you are carrying - not the one you lost - I honestly didnt mean that one and only now have realised that is what you may have thought I meant. perhaps I should have said playing the pregnant martyr.

as for bitter and twisted harpy - That is exactly what your posts (read one after another) sound like. and THAT is probably why I got Thanks.

and my DD would never have carried on like you - she has a lovely generous OH too - but if she did she would certainly have got a lecture from me!

I am not surprised that many posters agree with you Mishka - I have been on here long enough to recognise the 'Men are always in the wrong' brigade and how they love to stir up trouble by fuelling the flames of what would otherwise have been a little spat!
I truly feel sorry for you - what should have been an argument between you and your OH one night and forgotten the next is turning into this.
Don't worry - I wont post again!

aliasojo

meritaten wrote: »

I am not surprised that many posters agree with you Mishka - I have been on here long enough to recognise the 'Men are always in the wrong' brigade and how they love to stir up trouble by fuelling the flames of what would otherwise have been a little spat!

I'm really surprised at your posts Meritaten.

I agree with the OP. Simply because I genuinely believe she had cause to be upset, not because I really believe men are always in the wrong.

We are all individuals and as such we will have differences over what feels important to us.

mishkanorman

meritaten wrote: »

I am not going to apologise Mishka - but, I am going to explain the Martyr to your unborn child remark which I believe may have been misconstrued. I meant the baby you are carrying - not the one you lost - I honestly didnt mean that one and only now have realised that is what you may have thought I meant. perhaps I should have said playing the pregnant martyr.

as for bitter and twisted harpy - That is exactly what your posts (read one after another) sound like. and THAT is probably why I got Thanks.

and my DD would never have carried on like you - she has a lovely generous OH too - but if she did she would certainly have got a lecture from me!

I am not surprised that many posters agree with you Mishka - I have been on here long enough to recognise the 'Men are always in the wrong' brigade and how they love to stir up trouble by fuelling the flames of what would otherwise have been a little spat!

Don't worry - I wont post again!

I knew exactly what baby you were insulting thanks and its vile either way !

victory

***shakes head and thinks why? Why? Why everytime on every thread?***......

victory

mishkanorman wrote: »

I knew exactly what baby you were insulting thanks and its vile either way !

Anyways..back on topic...have you made up with your OH and how does it stand now in your house?

Griizelda

I've been following this thread and haven't posted until now. Some of the comments on here are disgraceful and those people really should take a good, hard look at themselves....

Anyway, onto the topic. If the 16 year old was on her own with no support, then I could perhaps see why the OP's husband was so quick to give the washer/dryer away. But she's not. She lives with her parents (who are presumably supporting her) and she has a partner who is working full time and earning a decent salary. In those circumstances, I too, would be feeling extremely annoyed if my OH did something like that.

At the very least the OP's OH was thoughtless and from what the OP has posted, he really needs to start to put his own family first, both in his thoughts and deeds.

Good luck OP, I hope everything works out for you and that you go on to have a (relatively) trouble free pregnancy with a healthy baby at the end of it all.